Issues With My MomFamilyIssues With My Mom<div class="ExternalClassE4C26BA8557D4490B3A5F407554A3B3A"><p>​<span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;color:#333333;">I have been having some issues with my mom. She calls me names and says that I am pathetic because I don't do things the way she wants me to do them but I am doing my best and I don't know what she wants. It has gotten to the point where I hate even considering her my mother, it just keeps getting worse and worse. </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClass5C5E063FEFFA426CBC6E65F5BB7C147E"><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;color:#333333;">It's great that you reached out today. No one wants to be called names. We do not know if your mother has tried other ways of getting a message across to you, if she is so frustrated that she is saying things out of anger, or if this is a typical behavior of hers, but it is understandable that you are frustrated and angry about it.<br></span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;color:#333333;">Yes, we agree, you need to figure out if you can help change this behavior. At a time when things are calm, can you ask her to run through her expectations and even show you what she would approve of. Whether you are referring to a job around the house, your school grades, taking care of a younger sibling, or something else, maybe the two of you have different ideas of what it is to look like. Another option is to use a feeling statement with her: "I feel inadequate when_________" or "I feel really sad when_____________" This is a non-accusatory way of focusing on your own feelings as opposed to what the other person is doing wrong.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;color:#333333;">You can certainly always email or call in here if you need to talk through something and vent or want help in problem solving a situation. There is going to be no judgement but rather a trained crisis counselor who can help you figure out what your options are.<br></span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;color:#333333;">Consider developing a list of about 10 positive coping skills. Some could be distractions like writing your thoughts out, drawing, or calling a friend. Others could be ways to relax like taking a walk, taking a hot shower, or listening to relaxing music. It's important to have healthy options because throughout life there will be stressors that arise that you will need to work through.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;color:#333333;">Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></p></div>16

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