My Mom Thinks I Don't CareFamilyMy Mom Thinks I Don't Care<div class="ExternalClass7C3D788583784A46B6EE9597323C4F1C"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>A ylyv counselor gave me the best idea of writing a letter to my mom. I’ve been working on it, but its really hard to write. I think thats because I’m kind of embarrassed about feelings and stuff. This all happened because I keep getting in trouble for being disruptive, so we had to have a meeting with teachers. They basically told me off and it was hard for me to handle, so I shut down. My mom took my shutting down as a signal for “I don't care”, but really its just a bad way for me to escape when I feel cornered and my feelings are hurt. I admit I am not the best at taking criticism when its piled on like that. It can hurt pretty bad. I don’t know what to write in the letter to explain myself and make things better like I want to. I’m working on my behavior too, but thats also hard and no one understands. Its like climbing a super tall tree because I’m excited about it, but I let my excitement make me forget to make sure there is a safe way back down and I get stuck. Its hard to see the danger or consequences until after I get in trouble and then I wonder how I could have not seen them in the first place. I promise I'm not stupid and I promise I am trying. I guess right now I feel discouraged and like everyone just wants me to go away. I dont know what to do now about the letter​.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClass62F84C02F1554A5F8B5463F2D6CBAF0C"><div><div class="ExternalClass7C3D788583784A46B6EE9597323C4F1C"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>It isn’t easy to write a letter to your mom, especially when you are disclosing feelings about something that is uncomfortable for you.  However, it may be easier to write a letter than to talk to her about it.  While you may think that you are struggling with writing your mom a letter, what you wrote in this email is great.  You can use much of what you put in your email in your letter to her.  You explain why you shut down in school, and that you want to work on your behavior.  You also show that you are feeling badly about what happened in school.  It is well written and appears that you really thought about what you are writing.  I have also attached a tip on writing a letter to your parents <a href="/Pages/tip-letter-to-your-parents.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-letter-to-your-parents.aspx</a>.  It is not on the same topic, but it may help with how you can format the letter.  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Another thing that you can do (if you haven’t already done this) is to apologize to the school staff, if there were staff involved when you were being disruptive.  That shows a lot of maturity and that you recognize that your behavior was inappropriate.  Take responsibility for your actions, and make a promise that you will try to do better in the future. </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We want you to know that we are here for you.  If you would like to talk more about this issue let us know.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>13

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