| I Hate Them Both | Family | I Hate Them Both | <div class="ExternalClass62B77D24557143CAB4D1CD9FA1540061"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>I feel sad today, I am not sure why, I just do.
Last night I got into a fight with my foster dad, aka my brother-in-law, and my
foster mom, aka my sister, (complicated) and we fought because I was eating,
and then I don't even remember what happened and then he told me to go to my
room because I was "yelling" at him, which I wasn't, I was trying to
talk louder so he could hear me, because my bratty niece was screaming and
yelling trying to talk over me, so I yelled over her, and then I told him that 5
times and went to my room and I started crying and just drawing horrible
demented drawings, which is all my drawing book is filled with, just emotional,
demented, evil drawings about me cutting myself or me just dying or killing
myself, because I don't have anything good to draw or write about. So then I
wanted to just go to school the next day, I wish I could be at school all the
time, I hate it at home, I'm sick of being with them, I hate them, both. </span></p>
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the reason you feel sad is because of what occurred last night. We are
fairly certain the whole issue left many of you with bad feelings. Your
"foster parents"/sister and brother in law, are attempting to care
for you in the best way they know how and it sounds as though things are not
going too smoothly for any of you.</span></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Whether you
realize it or not, that is hard for them and they perhaps feel guilty that they
are not able to create a happier home life for you and for their own child.</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>We don't know
why you are in foster care or what happened with your biological parents, but
we are glad that you do have adults in your life who care about you enough to
bring you into their home. Parenting is a tough job as is growing up
through adolescence. You all have tough jobs to do and finding a happy
medium is difficult. </span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Obeying rules
is difficult but the better you get at it, the easier things will be.
Yelling never makes things better but only worse. The same goes for
arguing. It never makes things better, but only worse.</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Try really hard
to set some guidelines for yourself. When you begin to get upset and feel
like raising your voice, lower it, soften it and ask to be excused for a time
so you can calm yourself before continuing with the point you were trying to
make or the conversation you were trying to have.</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>It is all about
self-control and if you can get better control of yourself now, it will save
you lots of sad feelings in the future. Stay in touch and let us know how
things are going.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Sincerely,</span></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Pat, Counselor </span></p>
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