| My Mom Is So Negative | Family | My Mom Is So Negative | <div class="ExternalClassF53BBA3C64AB4972988C03201DB46C19"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>My mom is always so
scary. I am afraid to share anything with her because she supports the other
side not me. All she talks about anymore is studying. When I finish the amount
of studying she has told me to she still says I don't study enough. (even though I have all A's and A pluses). Every time I see her she scrunches her face. Then
she says that my face grosses her out. She never trusts me. I have a dad and he
is very wonderful. He understands the fact that I am still a kid. My mom also
says that I am a kid but then she would make me act like a 15 year old. My
parents live together but I don't really get to see my dad that much because he
is always working. But the fact that he is always working doesn't bother me. I
will agree I am a little stubborn but that is because everyone is always saying
negative things about me. By everyone I mean my mom. And since my mom is a
really big part of my life, it really bothers me. Please, please, please, help
me.</span></p>
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</span></div> | <div class="ExternalClass0430AEB2C5D1466C84135DDD9B59F568"><div><div class="ExternalClassF53BBA3C64AB4972988C03201DB46C19"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>It sounds like you are feeling a lot of pressure from your
mother to perform well at school. A’s and A+’s seem hard to beat, but
your mother probably just wants the best for you. You might be a student
who is bright, retains information really well, and takes good notes in class
so it might not require you as much time to get the work done. Think
about asking your mom what she would like to see you do differently regarding
your studies. Maybe she can identify something specific that you could
actually do to put this this to rest.</span></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>No one wants to hear negativity that is for sure. It hurts
when you are always hearing negative things about yourself. It sounds
like you feel she is picking all the negatives and not really focusing on
anything positive. At a time when the two of you are getting along,
consider telling her how it makes you feel when she makes a hurtful
comment. She may think that she is trying to keep you on top of things or
that she needs to be the disciplinarian, because your Dad is at work often.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>You are right that she is a big part of your life, so we are so
glad you are reaching out to talk about this, because holding it inside would
be very hard to do. It would come to a boiling point eventually and then
when a person is that mad usually words or comments get said that end up
hurting more people. Talk to her. Be willing to listen to. We
sure hope the two of you can come to an understanding, so this is not weighing
so heavily on your mind.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></span><br></p>
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