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My Mom Is Super ControllingFamilyMy Mom Is Super Controlling<div class="ExternalClass5573F7D2ADE746F4827D4644D7ACFAD9"><p>​<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">I need to know what to do. My mom is super controlling. I can't move out because my dad died and I'm helping her with bills and support because we don't have family here. But she's so controlling with clothes and social life. She won't let me go out, it's effecting my social life and making me depressed. If I go out, she keeps blowing up my phone and screaming, if I come home late, she screams at me or throws things. IDK what to do. I tried talking to her but it makes no difference. She needs to understand she can't keep controlling me. </span></p></div><div class="ExternalClass6016B70AADA64E3388FBF2370C72CF90"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">You made a great decision to seek support. It sounds like you are feeling very conflicted & frustrated by what is going on at home. It is understandable why you would feel this way. It is great that you have been able to provide this support to your mother and have been helping her with the bills. Is this something she is able to do on her own? Or is it possible to see what State assistance programs exist that could potentially provide this extra support to your mother to allow you the opportunity to live your life a bit more freely?</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">It sounds like this is not the healthiest environment for you. The relationship needs new boundaries in order for you to both remain happy and able to help each other. You are not able to control your mother's actions. However, you can continue to speak with her and hope to work towards progress. You can also focus on what you are able to control in the situation. Create boundaries in your relationship. Decide if you want to continue living at home. Seek outside assistance for you and your mom. Control your reactions. There is probably not an easy an answer in this matter, however, it does not sound like you are able to keep living under such control. Take time for some deep reflection and research to see what options are available and what is the best way to proceed for you.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">We want to be a support for you. Please reach out to us either by calling 1-800-448-3000, chat, text, or email us back. </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Stay Strong!</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">​Brittany, Counselor</span></p></div>22

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