My Mom Tells Me I'm Too ExpensiveFamilyMy Mom Tells Me I'm Too Expensive<div class="ExternalClass06DA3C62F0AA4383A928D13D7ED2BA37"><p>​<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">My parents, specifically my mom, constantly complains to me about money and how I'm "too expensive" but won't let me get a job or use my own money to help alliveate expenses (which is really just band expenses or cross country uniform expenses) and usually responds with "clearly you can't even function" or something along those lines. And she's right, I'm too emotionally unstable to function but she won't let me talk to a therapist and makes a bunch of excuses ("oh you'll get over it" or "just cut out toxic people" or "why don't you move schools?" - as if moving my senior year was a smart idea) when really it's about the money (it always is). I tried getting my own help with my school counselor but she didn't even read my emails or call me in when I made an appointment. I have no distant family or adult figures that can help me. I'm basically just alone.  </span></p></div><div class="ExternalClassAD32CF0C99524FF5B363B235A76BEB2F"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Thanks for emailing in.  It sounds like the financial stress on your mother is taking a toll on your relationship with her as well.  Feeling unstable or feeling like no one is truly listening to you is not a fun feeling to have.  Everyone needs a listening ear every so often.  That is odd that even your school counselor did not reply to you.  Should that happen again, most definitely reach out to someone else at school be it the academic counselor, school psychologist, or even the principal.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">We do not know the reasoning for not allowing you to work.  Sometimes parents will enforce that due to lack of transportation, or the need for an older child to do some family babysitting while the parent works, or if grades are not up to par,  or putting the family over the income limit so that welfare assistance is no longer available.  Consider calling for a meeting with your mom and lay out a plan for attaining a job.  See if she will visit with you about her concerns.  If you still want to pursue the job have a plan.  That means putting a resume together, knowing where you are going to apply, how you will get there, what hours would work and how many hours per week you can work, and practice your interviewing skills.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">If you have been struggling emotionally at home, there are some things you can try at home to relax your mind and body.  Daily exercise, positive thinking, organizing your day with a calendar, eating healthy, and journaling out your thoughts are all great ideas that will quickly become good habit if you are consistent in doing them.  If you are feeling a little shaky emotionally read some of the articles on the YLYV website.  A lot of times you will find out, "you know I am normal" and learn how to separate the big things from the little things, so that you feel a little bit more stability in the handling of stressors.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Feel free to call in anytime, or you can chat or text with us through our site.  A crisis counselor will always be willing to help out.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></p></div>17

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