I See The Bullies EverydayBullyingI See The Bullies Everyday<div class="ExternalClassD26FB55D20FA4B5CBF056D9D6F41D1BC"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>There is a girl and her group of friends at my school who for the past 3 or 4 months have been bullying me. They've been hissing, barking and yelling at me; and previously the girl had intimidated me with her hands on me, pushed and inappropriately touched me. I've tried telling my guidance counselor (who at my small school knows everybody); but it's continued. It got to the point that I told my principal and the girl would stop for a week or 2 then start up again. Exactly 2 weeks ago a staff member at my school saw/heard them barking at me and told them to stop, and when they didn't she told the dean of students. They were talked to and the main girl was given a small amount of discipline. However, today while I was playing basketball during break at lunchtime, and she and her friends came over. They were making fun of me for playing basketball with the main girl's brother (who also has been bullying me because of his sister). The brother then repeatedly rammed me with his body, this continued as I tried to play basketball with some other boys, At one point the girl said some mean comments about me, and then she began swearing at me a good 5 or 6 times. I walked away, and following previous instructions told my principal yet nothing was dealt with today. I'm going through all of this without a friend, as my best friend got upset at me right after winter break. I don't feel comfortable being around alone at my school, as I see the bullies everyday. </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClass49C10AB3642A481482586E9F938F8C04"><div><div class="ExternalClassD26FB55D20FA4B5CBF056D9D6F41D1BC"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Thank you for contacting Your Life Your Voice.   You are so brave to try to combat this bullying on your own.  School should be a place where you feel comfortable and safe.  No one deserves to be bullied, and even though you have attempted to stop this bullying, it is time to get your parents involved so that the bullying stops immediately.  Talk to your parents about the bullying.  You should also continue to report any incidents of bullying to your school counselor.  Be as specific as possible.  Include the dates, times, people involved (including bystanders).  Keep a written record of this as well.  Report each and every incident to the school administration.  If they do not follow up go to the school board.  Most schools have policies against bullying.  Ask for the school policy on bullying. </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Regarding the incident today, check back with the principal to see what follow up was done.  Sometimes it takes a little time for parents to be contacted and consequences to be levied.  Also, you may not specifically know what the consequences will be for this group, as the school may have policies about how much information they can share.   Don’t assume that nothing was done; instead, double-check to see what the outcome was. </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Unfortunately you cannot change the other people's behavior, but you can change your reaction to the bullies.  In order to combat this bully, try pulling up all of the courage and self-confidence that you can.  If someone says nasty things to you, just don't react.  Think of some responses such as "okay" or "I'm working on that."  If you don't have any sort of emotional reaction, they won't think it is as fun to say hurtful things to you. You can also walk away and ignore the bullies.  Again, don't show any emotion.  If you are in a situation where you can't walk away, such as during class, ask to move seats.  Try as much as possible to stay clear of these people. </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Also remember that what people say is not a true reflection of who you are as a person.  Surround yourself with positive people and tell yourself that you are a good person.  You might even write down a list of positive attributes about you, and read this list to yourself when you are being bullied. </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Take care and please let us know how you are doing.  We are here for you.   </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>13

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