| I See The Bullies Everyday | Bullying | I See The Bullies Everyday | <div class="ExternalClassD26FB55D20FA4B5CBF056D9D6F41D1BC"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>There is a girl and
her group of friends at my school who for the past 3 or 4 months have been
bullying me. They've been hissing, barking and yelling at me; and previously the girl had intimidated me with her hands on me, pushed and inappropriately touched
me. I've tried telling my guidance counselor (who at my small school knows
everybody); but it's continued. It got to the point that I told my principal and
the girl would stop for a week or 2 then start up again. Exactly 2 weeks ago a
staff member at my school saw/heard them barking at me and told them to stop,
and when they didn't she told the dean of students. They were talked to and the
main girl was given a small amount of discipline. However, today while I was playing
basketball during break at lunchtime, and she and her friends came over. They
were making fun of me for playing basketball with the main girl's brother (who
also has been bullying me because of his sister). The brother then repeatedly
rammed me with his body, this continued as I tried to play basketball with some
other boys, At one point the girl said some mean comments about me, and then
she began swearing at me a good 5 or 6 times. I walked
away, and following previous instructions told my principal yet nothing was
dealt with today. I'm going through all of this without a friend, as my best
friend got upset at me right after winter break. I don't feel comfortable being
around alone at my school, as I see the bullies everyday. </span></p>
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</span></div> | <div class="ExternalClass49C10AB3642A481482586E9F938F8C04"><div><div class="ExternalClassD26FB55D20FA4B5CBF056D9D6F41D1BC"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Thank you for contacting Your Life Your Voice. You
are so brave to try to combat this bullying on your own. School should
be a place where you feel comfortable and safe. No one deserves to be
bullied, and even though you have attempted to stop this bullying, it is time
to get your parents involved so that the bullying stops immediately. Talk
to your parents about the bullying. You should also continue to report
any incidents of bullying to your school counselor. Be as specific as
possible. Include the dates, times, people involved (including bystanders).
Keep a written record of this as well. Report each and every incident to
the school administration. If they do not follow up go to the school
board. Most schools have policies against bullying. Ask for the
school policy on bullying. </span></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Regarding the incident today, check back with the principal to
see what follow up was done. Sometimes it takes a little time for parents
to be contacted and consequences to be levied. Also, you may not
specifically know what the consequences will be for this group, as the school
may have policies about how much information they can share. Don’t
assume that nothing was done; instead, double-check to see what the outcome
was. </span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Unfortunately you cannot change the other people's behavior, but
you can change your reaction to the bullies. In order to combat this
bully, try pulling up all of the courage and self-confidence that you
can. If someone says nasty things to you, just don't react. Think
of some responses such as "okay" or "I'm working on
that." If you don't have any sort of emotional reaction, they won't
think it is as fun to say hurtful things to you. You can also walk away and
ignore the bullies. Again, don't show any emotion. If you are in a
situation where you can't walk away, such as during class, ask to move
seats. Try as much as possible to stay clear of these people. </span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Also remember that what people say is not a true reflection of
who you are as a person. Surround yourself with positive people and tell
yourself that you are a good person. You might even write down a list of
positive attributes about you, and read this list to yourself when you are
being bullied. </span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Take care and please let us know how you are
doing. We are here for you. </span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p>
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