| The Words They Say Hurt Me | Bullying | The Words They Say Hurt Me | <div class="ExternalClass091B1E26EE90494CA8615D7B49DB67DE"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>I had a little panic
attack about 10 minutes ago from a lot of stress. People at my school have been
bothering me and have made my stress worsen everyday. The words they say hurt me
a lot and have been replaying in my head for a couple of weeks now and I can't
focus on my studies. How do I make it stop? </span></p>
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</span></div> | <div class="ExternalClass03803D80D2DF452EA6CAC7335BD8C578"><div><div class="ExternalClass091B1E26EE90494CA8615D7B49DB67DE"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>It’s great that you are reaching out. We sure hope this
has not been going on for a long time. It sounds like some other students
said something to you that really made you feel bad or they have been
repeatedly saying things which hurt you which really would be called bullying
and it is not right. You are right that when you have something on your
mind and your heart hurts, it can be really hard to focus.</span></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>If you keep this all on the inside it might continue to affect
your school work, so it’s time to get some help. Let’s talk about some
calming techniques for starters so that you can calm yourself when these
thoughts start to bother you. Picture a very calm scene or a favorite
vacation spot and visualize yourself there, do some positive self-talk which is
when in your mind you say 3 very positive things about yourself, take some very
slow controlled deep breaths even counting them out so you are sure to do it
slowly. These are all techniques to try when you feel panic coming on.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>If the bullying has continued, you have some options, you can
tell your friends and enlist their help to talk to those who are bullying and
ask them to stop, you can use some humor to throw back at them like “Oh wow
that was original”, you can report to your school administrator or counselor
and if you feel nothing changed, it’s time to enlist the help of your
parents. Your school probably even has a policy about bullying that you
can look up in your handbook.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Note the names of people who are doing it, note exactly what
they say or do, note where and when it happens. All of these details are
important pieces of information to share with the school office. If you
need a listening ear, know that you can call in for free and talk to a crisis
counselor here too. You deserve to feel safe at your own school, so you
absolutely are doing the right thing about talking about this. Always
remember that just because people say mean things, it does not mean it is true. Ok?</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></span><br></p>
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