Everything Is Falling ApartAbuseEverything Is Falling Apart<div class="ExternalClass6E65EEA76D4741A98F7613FF1B2F9A23"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>Everything is falling apart. I was abused my dad, then he died. Everyone is sad, I don't know how to feel. I hated him, he gave me depression, anxiety, and post traumatic stress disorder. No one but my mom and therapist know what he was really like. I couldn't even talk about it till he died. I don't know how to handle this. I hate myself because of everything that he did to me. He made me see absolutely nothing when I look in the mirror. How can someone do that to someone they are supposed to love unconditionally? </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClassCA047122087E4587AE7977B2D726BC6C"><div><div class="ExternalClass6E65EEA76D4741A98F7613FF1B2F9A23"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We are glad you decided to write in for support. It sounds like you are very conflicted. It’s okay if you don’t feel sad, there is no rule saying you have to. And just the same it is okay for those that are sad to feel the way they feel based on their relationship with your father.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>It wasn’t right for your father to abuse you. It is not your fault that he did, and you didn’t cause him to do that to you. It is nothing you did. Don’t take ownership of his actions by feeling hate for yourself. What happened has everything to do with him and who he was. You may never understand what made him to be the person that treated you that way. Now it is time for you to focus on how you are going to heal. It’s great that you are working with a therapist and you are feeling that you are to a point where you can talk about your experiences. This is a great step to take to help improve your life.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>What your father did was not love, and it was not fair. However, it doesn’t need to define your life. It is something that happened to you, and it will have an influence on who you become, but it is your choice on how. Make the choice to change your future, make the choice to focus on healing. You deserve this opportunity to be loved by yourself.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Start making it a point to tell yourself positive things every day.  What you say to yourself makes a difference. Try these statements out:  </span><a href="/Pages/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx</a>.</p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We want to be a support for you. Please reach out to us either by calling 1-800-448-3000, chat, text, or email us back. We are here to offer you support 24 hour a day, 7 days a week. Stay Strong!</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Sincerely,</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Brittany, Counselor</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>15

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