| Escaped From My Abusive Dad | Abuse | Escaped From My Abusive Dad | <div class="ExternalClass3E1CE50D4C884B08A513EDB5443981D6"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">I<span> recently escaped
from my abusive dad and I'm in a much better situation now and obviously I'm far
happier and healthier than before but I feel like I canst let go of my dad. I don't feel any love for him nor do I like him but I can't stop checking his
social media accounts to see what he's saying/doing. He posts crazy things about how
he "misses us so much" even though he treated me and my mom and brother horribly. I feel such a pull to check his social medias even though it only serves
to make me mad. I'm worried I'll never be able to let go. </span></p>
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</span></div> | <div class="ExternalClass910791A53AEE4C65A7C5360CFFE666C5"><div><div class="ExternalClass3E1CE50D4C884B08A513EDB5443981D6"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Thanks so much for emailing in. There is no doubt you are
drawn to the curiosity of what your father is putting out there right now and
that you wonder how he is doing. It’s great to hear that you are in a
safe environment right now, both emotionally and physically. No one
deserves to be abused or controlled. We also know that a lot of times it
is not easy to make a decision to leave, but we are so glad that you both did
as abuse usually worsens over time.</span></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>One question to ask yourself is “Will checking on his social
media help me or hurt me?” Right now, it is hurting you, as it is making
you mad and even making you question his authenticity. Just as a breakup
with a boyfriend, sometimes you get drawn back into it just to see if something
has changed and once there is distance you can sometimes forget some of the bad
and hyper-focus on a good time or good memory. Having said that, it
usually is not helpful to you. In fact, it can get in the way of healing
and only delay your return to good physical and emotional health. </span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>You don’t have make a decision to let go of your Dad forever,
but you can make daily decisions on what is best for you at this time, because
you have no control over what your Dad does. You cannot fix him.
You cannot change him. You can only hope that he gets help for
himself and makes some changes to better himself for the future.
Hopefully this all makes sense. We know that only you are walking this walk
right now, but if you need a listening ear or to talk through options you absolutely
call if you need to 1-800-448-3000.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></span><br></p>
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