Worried About My SisterAbuseWorried About My Sister<div class="ExternalClass2BF8F4BFA50141DE8BDB31D47B620ED6"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">​<span style="">I am 14 yrs old, and I have a sister who is 9 or 10. I don't remember. We have different mothers, but we have the same father. The problem is, my father is abusive and I don't know what to do. I don't go to his house anymore, but im worried about her. I saw her this weekend and she had bruises on her. I don't want to call cps because I don't want to upset my dad. What should I do? P.S.: He keeps telling her that I hate her and will never love her enough to go to his house and see her. ​​</span></span></p></div><div class="ExternalClassD06B53D4402D4AE0AE842D791F99B9D8"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Thank you for reaching out to us here at Your Life Your Voice. Abuse can be a scary and potentially very dangerous thing to deal with. You were incredibly smart and brave to reach out for help to talk about such a sensitive issue; too often, people are afraid to even make this step, but you had the amazing courage to do so. Also, your sister is incredibly lucky to have you looking out for her and being willing to reach out on her behalf; not all siblings are close with one another, but it sounds like you two have a pretty great relationship.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Dealing with abuse is complicated because there is almost never a good answer on what to do in a way that will not cause some sort of pain for someone. For you, it sounds like you don't want to tell because you don't want your dad to get in trouble but you also want to tell so your sister doesn't continue to get hurt by your dad. Ultimately, the decision is yours, but there are a few options that we recommend/suggest.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">First and foremost, we will always recommend that you call CPS and talk to them about what is going on. There is not guarantee that calling them will get your dad in trouble. In fact, you can call CPS, tell them what is going on, and ask them their opinion on what you should do and they will talk to you about your options; they are a great resource for finding out information. If you are scared to make that call alone, you can call us at (800) 449-3000, and we can make that call with you. A second option would be encouraging your sister to talk to her school counselor about what is going on, especially if she is not feeling safe in dad's house. You can also talk to your school counselor about what is going on, and they would be able to help. Another potential option would be to tell your mom what is going on with your dad; although your sister has a different mom, you could ask your mom if your sister could come stay with you whenever she isn't feeling safe at dad's.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">In the end, it is your decision on what you do, but keep in mind that your sister's safety is most important. You also don't have to make this decision alone; please contact us if you have any more questions or just need to talk through some of your options. We wish you the best of luck and take care!</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">​Sincerely, </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">PC - Counselor</span></p></div>14

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