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My Parents Don't Understand

I just got my first phone and i had wanted an iphone but my parents got me an android because they dont think an iphone would work for some reason? they had talked about getting me an android for a long time and when i would try and bring up how i wanted an iphone they would shut me down and not listen to my opinions. they gave me it out of the blue today and i got upset and felt cheated but when they saw that i had gotten upset they just called me a privileged brat. i feel like im just a burden to them and i cant talk to them about any of my opinions or anything that i want because they just yell or lecture me about it. how am i supposed to talk about how i feel?<br></p></div>

<div class="ExternalClassB5B862C8BCA045D7A3BD7D7950064E1B"><p>Thank-you for your email. It can be hard to communicate with parents sometimes. They have different ideas than you do about things. Parents and children come from different generations, which leads to very different ideas. In this case, they were likely excited to give you a phone. They were probably looking for the most reasonably priced one, which led to them purchasing the phone they gave you. At the same time, you felt disappointment with not getting the phone you were hoping for. As a result, you felt hurt and thought they were not listening to you. Neither of these ideas is wrong. All of us have hopes about things and can be hurt when it doesn't happen. </p><p>It might be good to sit down and talk with your parents. Before you talk, give some thought to what is important to you. Be willing to listen to their ideas as well. Try to come to some mutual agreement. Then move on and let things go. This link has some good ideas to help you get started. <a href="/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx?Topic=Family">How to Talk to Your Parents (yourlifeyourvoice.org)</a></p><p>Hopefully things start to improve.</p><p>Take Care,<br></p><p>Julie, Crisis Counselor<br></p></div>

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