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Due To Covid-19 I Have Lost Over 21 RelativesCOVID-19Due To Covid-19 I Have Lost Over 21 Relatives<div class="ExternalClassAB14B4103AF645388963D2839609748A"><p>D<span style="font-size:12pt;font-family:"times new roman", serif;color:#15232b;">ue to Covid-19 I've lost over 21 relatives, one of them being a cousin who was like a sister to me..I was wondering if you could help me out since I am very scared of being alone, I have gotten depression..and anxiety, three times already even when I have been trying to not be sad, even with the help of my friends and family..may you help me out please.</span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClass1F98E0596F2E4EC79D361C3DD774F0FC"><p>​We are so sorry to hear about your losses and especially your cousin.  If she was someone you shared ideas and feeling and dreams with, now who do you share those with?  It is really hard to find another connection like that.  You will have to give yourself time to heal from these losses and especially your cousin.  Meanwhile, when she enters your thoughts.  Like when something happens and you can't wait to share it with her, take a moment and talk with her, tell her all about it.  You don't have to do this sharing out loud.  You can write her a letter or just think about the two of you sitting perhaps on your bed, talking about what is going on in your life.  Think of how she would react to what you are sharing and what you can predict she would say.  After all, she is still with you in your heart and in your thoughts.  When we have really close connections with someone, death doesn't end that.  It just creates a distance between us.  It is likely that she would not want you to struggle like you have been.  She would want you to still be the “fun" you that she enjoyed being with to laugh with and be silly with. </p><p>Each of us deals with loss and grief in our own way.  Grief doesn't follow a perfect pattern or take a measured amount of time before it goes away.  If you are struggling in spite of the support and help of your family, perhaps talking with a counselor or looking for a support group of other youth who have losses in their lives would be helpful.  Your feelings are not unusual or out of proportion to your losses.  Sometimes it helps to know others have similar feelings too.  You don't have to deal with this alone.  Let your parents know that you need some additional help. </p><p>Pat, Crisis Counselor<br></p></div>12

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