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I Get Mad When I'm Told No

<div class="ExternalClass775CF97E85354D1397B5B76C3DDCC1E4"><p><span style="font-size:12pt;font-family:"times new roman", serif;">I can't stop getting mad over little things. Of course people get mad but I'm getting mad over people telling me no. I dont wanna be mad all the time I'm usually a really fun and outgoing person but now I just can't control how I act or what I say. Please help. </span><br></p></div>

<div class="ExternalClass4048ACE34BBE461B901D660423184B37"><p>Good job talking about this! Realizing that you need help with accepting answers when you are told "no" is the first step. It isn't any fun to be told "no" but it is an important to learn. There are rules and laws in every country that are in place for the safety and well being of everyone. Each and every person has to learn to either accept the word no or to pay the consequence for not accepting it. For example – Stop signs are placed in areas where there is a need to stop and check to make sure there is no traffic coming toward them. If everyone just raced through the streets as they choose, there would be more accidents and it would be dangerous for everyone. </p><p>Learning to accept no for an answer is a skill that you will use all of your life – regardless of your age. One of the best ways to learn to accept a no answer is to train yourself to simply say 'ok' and then wait until you calm yourself back down to calmly ask why you were told no. This process allows you to stay calm, learn to work with others and then when you ask for more information when you are calm, you will learn to think about things from a different perspective. Happiness is a choice each of us can make every day no matter what happens during the day. It's ok to be upset, but by using some coping skills to help you feel better while upset. Building new skills takes time, so don't give up while you learn them. <br></p><p>Stay safe!<br></p><p>Karen, Counselor<br></p></div>

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