Am I Gaslighting?RelationshipsAm I Gaslighting?<div class="ExternalClassC23466A231714B6D9B411997F52EE411"><p>​<span style="font-size:12pt;font-family:"times new roman", serif;">My friend just told me I’ve been gaslighting without realizing it I want to stop doing it and end it and apologize to her. I don’t want to mentally abuse her.  </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClass1D1093F95E654519A0A43D248D3D58A5"><p>​It's good that you are reaching out for support. It sounds like you and your friend may be having some communication struggles. Maybe you could sit down and talk to her about it. Ask her to give you some examples of what you have done or said to make her feel that you are gaslighting her. It might even be a good idea to look up gaslighting just so you are clear about what it means and can evaluate yourself to see if you might be doing it​​. </p><p>It shows a great deal of compassion and care that you are willing to look inside yourself and your own behaviors if it's hurting someone else's feelings. Friendships can be hard sometimes, and can be difficult to navigate. There may be things that she may need to work on as well, and if you both could communicate in a healthy way you both could grow from it. <br></p><p>This link is about <a href="/Pages/tip-healthy-relationships.aspx?Topic=Friendship">healthy relationships</a>. It talks about having healthy boundaries, being supportive and handling disagreements calmly. </p><p>You did a really great job reaching out, if you need anything please let us know. You can always call and text as well.<br></p><p>Stay strong!<br></p><p>​Michelle, Crisis Counselor<br></p></div>17

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