I Have Been Missing My DadFeelingsI Have Been Missing My Dad<div class="ExternalClassD529411A31A04BDB9E6BBB1E4AAF0D83"><p>​<span style="font-size:12pt;font-family:"times new roman", serif;">I have been dealing with a lot of emotions lately. I felt overwhelmed and angry at my family. I then felt like I was alone even though I know I'm not alone! I have been missing my dad who passed away 9 years ago :(. I am hoping that Summer will keep some of these things off my mind. I babysat my cousins yesterday which helped a little bit but then when I got back home, I felt alone again.  </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClassCD9EF967092A46C4B1E80B2A9574299F"><p>​This Summer Season is coming just in time. This has been a rough Spring with a lot of unexpected togetherness with family. Sometimes a person can be surrounded by people but still feel alone especially if you are angry with them for something or felt that no one understands you or stood alone on a difference of opinions you might have had. It sounds like you got a little reprieve by getting away for a while and spending time babysitting your younger cousins which is a good thing.  </p><p>Everyone needs some alone time, but too much time alone can cause you to overthink things, worry, feel panicky, and sometimes get caught up in a cycle of only thinking of negatives and not positives. That becomes a problem itself because negative thinking takes up so much more energy than positive thoughts. If that is starting to happen make sure you stop yourself and each time you hear something sad, or think a negative thought, or even look at the "glass as half empty instead of half full"...............you consciously make yourself think of something positive.<br></p><p>Losing your father as such a young age is something no one should ever have to go through. Grieving has no time line. There will be days when you think of an awesome memory of him and it makes you smile. There will be days when it seems like it was just yesterday and you want to roll up in to a ball, get under the covers, and just cry. It becomes problematic when it starts to interfere with daily living, but it seems like you can tell already if you keep things interesting and keep busy, you are a happier person.<br></p><p>With that being said, do not wait for Summer and happiness to come to you. Go out and find it. Take a walk and look at nature if you need a break from home. Offer to make a favorite Summertime meal whether it is grilling out burgers, or making some fruit kabobs. Put together an activity bag of things you can bring over next time you babysit for something new for the kids. Consider a part-time job or volunteer position. Do something to treat yourself. There will be ups and downs, but often times Summer does give you more time to explore and try things you are too busy to do during the school year.<br></p><p>Everyone wants to feel important to someone, loved by someone, and included with others so that feeling of loneliness goes away. All the money in the world along with a great job would not satisfy most people, and with good reason. It's just human nature to want to connect with others. Try to build stronger relationships with your friends and family. Start small, go for coffee or listen to songs together. Make a list of what work things and fun things you want to accomplish this Summer. Planning things to look forward too can help to make you feel more hopeful and keep you engaged with others.<br></p><p>​Sincerely, </p><p>Laura<br></p></div>18

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