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My Friends Are Bothering Me

<div class="ExternalClassED041958DC1B45CE99F029316ACBBE25">I have had multiple friend groups for the past three years and they all seem to ignore me except the one I have this year where 2 of them don't ignore me. But, for some reason everything they do has just started to annoy me more and more over the past few months even when they are just doing normal things. And sometimes when I am talking or hanging out with them I just get this really weird feeling and I don't want to be around them at all. Now I have the urge to just not be friends with them anymore because of it. Why is this happening and what should I do? </div>

<div class="ExternalClass7978F3BCB1414C83815B1C5988121445">We are glad you are reaching out for ideas and suggestions. Sometimes when you think you are friends with others and they irritate you it is because they have personality traits that you really don't like in others. They are critical or make fun of others. Or perhaps they share way too much personal information and it makes you uncomfortable. Or perhaps they are not honest or have different values then you have when it comes to respecting authority and themselves.Distance yourself from these peers just far enough to see if you can figure out WHY they are irritating you lately. Watch, listen and observe how they interact with others both peers and authority figures. Listen to how others feel about them and what their reputations are among your peers. Sometimes they appear to be really popular and high achievers and then you find out that they are truly bullies or they engage in activities that go against the standards that you have set for your life. So, we suggest that you first look in the mirror and decide what YOUR values and interests are, then begin to observe others to see if they share similar interests. We have a couple of tips that may be helpful: <ul><li><a href="/Pages/tip-Making-Friends.aspx?Topic=Friendship">Making Friends</a></li><li><a href="/Pages/tip-needy-friends.aspx?Topic=Friendship">Needy Friends</a></li><li><a href="/Pages/Building-Friendships.aspx?Topic=Friendship">Building Friendships</a></li></ul>You will find there are some people that you may want to be friendly towards but do not want to be their best friends and that's OK. Your teen years are all about figuring out this kind of relationship stuff. If you need further help with this, we are always here for you. Give us a call. Pat, Crisis Counselor </div>

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