| Helping Others Is Weighing Me Down | Feelings | Helping Others Is Weighing Me Down | <div class="ExternalClass32F78F8B95BA4CBC861AEA18A58522DD"><p><span style="color:#444444;font-family:"segoe ui", segoe, tahoma, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size:14.6667px;font-family:calibri;">So I have tried to commit suicide a few times, I've cut. I haven't eaten. This is probably what you guys see every day. I'm a person that hides my bad emotions. I try to help anyone else who feels the same way and make them feel better. I guess I'm doing it because I don't want them to feel what I feel. I try to make them relaxed, calm, and happy whilst I have their pressure added onto my shoulders, making my weight even more heavy. I also have depression. I am pansexual. My parents don't like the LGBT community like I do. M</span><span style="font-size:14.6667px;font-family:calibri;">y brothers don't
know I am, but fortunately they both aren't homophobics</span><span style="font-size:14.6667px;font-family:calibri;">. Anyways I guess help me.....????</span><br></span></p></div> | <div class="ExternalClass87BB8102FABC47CD9B3DFEC0B90EACE4"><p>We are so glad you are reaching out. It is important to ask for help and support when you need it. Focusing outward and helping others is a very therapeutic thing, we are glad that you do so! It's easy to see that you are a very empathetic person and enjoy brightening the moods of those around you; that is an amazing character trait to have.</p><p>Make sure you are taking care of yourself first, as you can't “pour from an empty glass." That means that in order to help others the best way possible, you have to put your own mental health first to make sure you are emotionally capable of handling the stressors someone else might be facing. It can take time and practice but you can build your skills so you are giving good care to yourself and to others.</p><p>Try a couple of these tips to help you to build your skills:</p><ul><li><a href="/Pages/tip-being-resilient.aspx?Topic=Regrets">Being Resilient</a></li><li><a href="/Pages/tip-9-steps-to-taking-care-of-yourself.aspx?Topic=Taking%20Care%20of%20You">Taking Care Of Yourself</a></li><li><a href="/Pages/tip-emotional-health-checklist.aspx?Topic=Taking%20Care%20of%20You">Emotional Health Checklist</a><br></li></ul><p>It sounds like you are also struggling with acceptance from your parents regarding your sexuality. <a href="/Pages/tip-your-identity.aspx?Topic=Identity">Your identity</a> is so important, and it can be a difficult to accept when those around you may not understand or seem to approve. Keep the lines of communication open. Find things that you have in common with your parents, hoping as time goes on that you will be able to <a href="/Pages/Build-a-Bridge-Not-a-Wall.aspx?Topic=Family">build a bridge</a> of understanding. </p><p>It's important for right now to find a good support system that includes those who accept and love you for who we are, no matter how you identify. Your brothers may be an option, if that is something you feel comfortable sharing with them and feel safe doing so. If not, friends, teachers, etc., can be a good place to start. </p><p>Keep going and stay safe. Just know you are valid and have worth just the way you are, and you will find your place in this world. <br></p><p>Keep being awesome,</p><p>Lauren, counselor<br></p></div> | | | |
