Having Issues With My MomFamilyHaving Issues With My Mom<div class="ExternalClass28271A1BCFC04E5B883EABF1C0AC874F"><p>​<span style="font-size:12pt;font-family:"times new roman", serif;">I've been having issues with my mom. We usually don't get along, but recently this year it's gotten a lot worse for me. I'm a junior just trying to get through school and plan for my future. But recently it's just been so hard to do anything lately, because my mom constantly insults me and makes me feel terrible. I mean this morning I had to go to school, and I wanted to cry so much, because my mom was arguing with me and saying some really terrible things about me this morning. I still had to go throughout each of my classes with a straight face. I just have to hear so much terrible things from her that I begin starting to believe them sometimes. She also makes me really scared sometimes. I feel like can't truly be myself around her. She strongly criticizes me for who I am, and what I like. I feel like she just ridicules me for everything I do. It's been so much to deal with, and I don't know what to do anymore. I used to be able to keep a positive mindset despite her treating me like this all the time, but I don't know how much I can take anymore. I've talked to a friend about this issue between me and my mom, and they were really supportive and kind to me before, but they also said that I really need to talk to an adult. I've considered reaching out to my grandma about this situation, but it's so hard for me to talk about this issue with the people in my family. I don't know what they can do to help. And that's why I'm here sending this email. Anyway, I'd be happy to hear back from someone. Thanks to whoever took the time to read about this</span>.<br></p></div><div class="ExternalClassD51B41CDCAED44C0ADFBC85C76E1E1DA"><p>​Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like things are pretty intense at times between you and your mom. We are so glad that you talked to your friend and got some personal support from them. Friends are great for that! We are also proud of your friend, they gave you support but then also showed great insight when they said that they think that you really need to talk to an adult.</p><p>You and your friend are right, getting adult support and possibly even having an adult to help you talk to your mom could be helpful. If your mom and your grandma get along, your grandma could be the perfect person to help. Your grandma could listen to both of you and your feelings and try to help you find common ground and different ways to get along with each other. Having a mediator is important when it seems like your communication is broken down. </p><p>We have a few ideas of things that you can do to improve the situation. Try to review some of these tips to see if there is a better way to communicate with your mom so your conversations don't become arguments.</p><ul><li><a href="file:///I:/nrtc/Hotline/YLYV/%E2%80%A2%09https:/www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/When-Anger-Comes-Between-You.aspx?Topic=Family">When Anger Comes Between You</a></li><li><a href="/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx?Topic=Family">How To Talk To Your Parents</a></li><li><a href="/Pages/Build-a-Bridge-Not-a-Wall.aspx?Topic=Family">Build A Bridge Not A Wall</a> </li></ul><p>It sounds like you are under a lot of stress at home and at school. When you are having problems at home it can be distracting at school. If you feel that you need extra support with your classes or your emotional health while you are at school, you could always check to see if your school counselor is available.</p><p>Remember, you have us too. You can always call and talk with one of our counselors – 1-800-448-3000 or TEXT VOICE to 20121. We are open 24/7.</p><p>We are here for you. Keep reaching out,<br></p><p>Sara, Counselor<br></p></div>17

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