| He Wants To Alone Text Me | Relationships | He Wants To Alone Text Me | <div class="ExternalClass58DED7DDA9AE40CABADE5498B2E3EB26"><p>Hey so I am in a relationship and he is saying that I can alone text him. What do I do? <br></p></div> | <div class="ExternalClass14F385167BF946AB9F9D0EC66E3DB830"><p>Thanks for reaching out today. Whatever it is he is asking you to do, it sounds like you are a little uncomfortable with it. Can you explain more what “alone text" means? Is he only wanting to communicate with you by text, is he asking you to text him without your parent's permission, is he not wanting you to talk to anyone but him, or is he requesting inappropriate photos, videos, and talk? </p><p>Remember, anything that you send on your phone can be viewed by anyone. It can be easily forwarded on, easily uploaded to the internet, and easily shown to other people. We just are not clear on what “alone text" means. A good rule of thumb would be to never send anything you are not comfortable with your parent, teacher, or coach seeing. <br></p><p>In just a few years you might even be allowed to go on dates, so talk to your parents about what their expectations are. Open, honest communication is best even though it might be a little uncomfortable. If your boyfriend is asking you to do anything that even just does not feel right, go with your gut and do not do it. Someone who genuinely cares about you would not ask you to do anything that you do not want to do. <br></p><p>You might hear stories about teenage girls sending inappropriate pictures and all. Do they get a lot of attention for that? Yeah probably, but did you know it actually is illegal? It is considered as distributing child pornography, most times it gets in the wrong hands. So many girls over the years have reached out to the hotline so very upset because what they have sent has been used against them. They have shared they feel betrayed, embarrassed, hurt, worried, teased, and then they have to deal with the school, or family, or friends who have seen it.<br></p><p>Let us know if it means something totally different, and we will do our best to make you think about what your options are. If you do not want to “alone text" with him, gently let him know why and his reaction might dictate what you do next.<br></p><p>Laura, Crisis Counselor<br><br></p></div> | 13 | | |
