| I Don't Want To Be Taken Away From My Family | Abuse | I Don't Want To Be Taken Away From My Family | <div class="ExternalClass3042AC55214C497580B32878108CBB68"><p>Well, when it comes to my family, they keep stressing me out. My dad calls me names almost everyday like cow, useless, stupid, etc. He does this because he has anger issues, and it's bad. My dad has beat me up for eating his ice cream. It wasn't too bad, but he left some bruises on my head, and he's choked me before. He pushed down on my brother and sister's eyes before. Then my mom is a narcissist or something. Any time I talk to her, she's always screaming or high strung. One time I went into question, and said “Mom", then she screamed “WHAT". I never did anything wrong. Then she is always talking crap on my older sister to me and vice versa. I've been having acne flare ups recently, and she keeps telling me how my face is bad, but I've been trying to control it. Then my lil brother keeps calling me names like cow, stupid, etc. he probably gets it from my dad. Then my brother is the favorite, so my parents let him get away with murder. My mom is always talking about how she hates kids to our face. And there's so much more. My mother doesn't buy me any feminine products either. Like there's so much more. I don't want to tell anybody because I don't want to be taken away from my family.<br></p></div> | <div class="ExternalClass89401989471D4C4C901AD12791B107E3"><p>It was a good idea to reach out to talk with our counselors at Your Life Your Voice. It sounds like there is a lot of negative energy running through your house with everyone you mentioned. It can be really hard to stop that energy with other people as we cannot control what anyone says or does. The only person that you can control is yourself. <br></p><p>You stated that your family really stresses you out. Dealing with that kind of stress can be difficult if you don't what to do so we understand your situation in that sense. Knowing what might trigger your family to say and do things that are hurtful can help you avoid some of what you described. If you know they are in a bad mood or stressed themselves, avoid contact in all forms. Keep to yourself as best as you can. Find a place in your home that you feel safe and can have some alone time. If not in the house, go outside on the patio or driveway to walk away from potential situations. It is important that you know what you can do if you need to ask for help. Creating your very own <a href="/Pages/tip-creating-a-safety-plan.aspx?Topic=Abuse">safety plan</a> when those situations come into play will help you feel more in control and hopefully less anxious. <br></p><p>If you have a trusted adult in your life that you can talk with about this, we suggest you do. Whether it's a grandparent, teacher, school counselor or neighbor, it's always a good thing to have support. Adults just know how to handle situations that might escalate into something bigger. They can help you sort through the experiences that you are having with your family and help you decide if you should <a href="/Pages/tip-reporting-abuse.aspx?Topic=Abuse">reach out for extra help</a>.<br></p><p>Find distractions for yourself. Use your skills, likes and hobbies to keep your mind distracted from the negative conversations going on. You don't need to let that attach to you. That will only create more negative energy. Use positive self-talk with yourself. Every day you need to <a href="/Pages/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx?Topic=Self%20Esteem">be kind to yourself</a> first.<br></p><p>Please know that we are here for you anytime you need to talk. You can reach out via phone, email, and text. Make sure you look at the links above to help you on a daily basis, especially the safety planning sheet. <br></p><p>You are not alone. Let us know how things are going and how you are doing with the information we offered today. IF you have any questions about them, don't hesitate to ask. That is what we are here for.<br></p><p>Take care, </p><p>Naina, counselor<br></p></div> | 16 | | |
