| Do All Parents Do This? | Family | Do All Parents Do This? | <div class="ExternalClassE24E8F09482D442396DC843F0205F597"><p><span style="font-size:12pt;font-family:"times new roman", serif;">I have been noticing how when my mom asks
me to do something she will ask me to put the thing away and then tell me in
much detail where it goes, or she will ask me to say, cook a whole chicken and
then tell me step by step how to do it, even though I've done it many times
already for her. Whenever I tell her I don't know say, what drawer her t-shirts
go in she tells me how many other times she tells me to do something and I say
'I know' and I should not say anything because she doesn't know when I do or
don't know how to do something or where to put something away. Is this
something that parents do or is it just how my
mom does things? I don't have any siblings and I've never seen other parents
that I know do this to their children, so I was just curious. </span><br></p></div> | <div class="ExternalClassCF4023DCFB9845CD9A6A7CDD24941A57"><p>We are so glad you came across our site and decided to reach out. Our goal is to help you, offer resources, or simply lend an ear to listen/read. From what you share, we can see why this relates to your home life and comfort.<br></p><p>It's great you have been observant and are reflecting on this. It sounds like you have learned the how/what/where/when to do things around the home, and your mother is still persistent with the instructions. It could be that she wants to make sure you learn, or likes to remind you, or just wants to be there for support. There is no saying for sure. Have you ever considered talking to her about it, or asking why she does this? It does not have to be a confrontational discussion, but perhaps a simple (for example), "I feel like I have learned where things go, but why is it that you like to remind me? I'm really just wondering." If you think you would like to open up this conversation with her, check out the link below that we are attaching. It might help you frame how and what to say if you decide to talk about this. </p><p>As a little something for yourself, while you are navigating through this, we are also attaching a link on building resiliency (aka bouncing back from tough times) just for good measure. Taking care of ourselves, even when we are not going through something, pays off and helps build your self-worth. Check it out!</p><p><a href="/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-how-to-talk-to-parents.aspx</a></p><p><a href="/Pages/tip-being-resilient.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-being-resilient.aspx</a></p><p>We hope this helps, but if you would like to continue talking please reach out.</p><p>All the best,</p><p>BME, Counselor<br></p></div> | 15 | | |
