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Suicide

My Friend Is Suicidal

<div class="ExternalClass49C12F7F28E0437F8E42744FB55AF9CC">Hi, my internet friend is in an extremely tough situation and I'm trying to find ways to get him help. He is suicidal. I try and listen to his struggles. I've extensively read up on techniques to help a suicidal person, but I just can't seem to make any headway with him. He says he just absolutely loathes himself and doesn't want therapists to try and help because he says he's beyond help. I've urged him to try suicide hotlines and chats, but he doesn't want to talk about his problems. He says that he's tired of talking about them and saying the same things and receiving the same responses. I cannot call the appropriate emergency services when I'm worried about him, as I don't know his exact address and he lives in a different country. I don't want to lose him, is there anything I can do? Anything I can try and convince him to do? I feel like I'm in over my head sometimes. I just don't want to lose him. </div>

<div class="ExternalClassD238118BEA744137ADD0464EBFC11013">You are being a great friend reaching out for him. It sounds like you have really encouraged him to reach out for support and have provided a lot of great options for him! Continue to be there to support your friend and let him know that he is not alone, like you have! Know that you have done an awesome job supporting your friend, and it is understandable that you are concerned for him. Would it be possible for you to get the country where he lives and his phone number if you do not already have it? If you have this information you could try to find the toll-free suicide prevention line in his country and provide them with his number and they may be able to call him to see how he is doing. You could also try to call the police in his area and ask for them to try to find him and check on him. Some police stations here are able find where a person lives through their cell phone company. Depending on where he lives it may be different, however, it could be a similar system. It seems that reaching out to hotlines and talking about his thoughts of suicide has not helped your friend so far. Here are some resources from our website <a href="/">www.yourlifeyourvoice.org</a> that you can forward on to your friend to look at that may be helpful:Suicide Thoughts: <a href="/Pages/tip-Suicidal-Thoughts.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-Suicidal-Thoughts.aspx</a> The Hope Box: <a href="/Pages/tip-hope-box.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-hope-box.aspx</a> Your Safety: <a href="/Pages/tip-your-safety.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-your-safety.aspx</a> 20 Question To Ask Yourself: <a href="/Pages/tip-20-Questions-to-Ask-Yourself-if-You-Feel-Like-Giving-Up.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-20-Questions-to-Ask-Yourself-if-You-Feel-Like-Giving-Up.aspx</a> How To Use Coping Skills: <a href="/Pages/tip-How-to-Use-Coping-Skills.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-How-to-Use-Coping-Skills.aspx</a> Here is another resource that may be helpful for you as you continue to be there and support your friend: How To Help An Online Suicidal Person: <a href="/Pages/tip-help-online-suicidal-person.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-help-online-suicidal-person.aspx</a> You are doing a great job reaching out for you friend. If you ever need to talk you can call, chat, or text us as well if you ever need to speak with someone immediately. We hope you and your friend find these resources useful. You're a great friend. Danielle, Counselor</div>

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