How Do I Get The Words Across?SuicideHow Do I Get The Words Across?<div class="ExternalClassEF22290B8B844F9CBAFF88874353A0CE"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>I will put it simply. I hate myself and I hate living. I am not a very nice person, and I don't have any amazing talents. I have overwhelming anxiety and nearly 24/7 I either feel like I'm suffocating or drained completely. I haven't been sleeping much at all, and life in general has just been really hard on me recently. I care too much about what others think of me, and my previous actions plague my thoughts all the time and torture me. Of course, that is not entirely why I am here. I know people who have struggled with the same things, people I care about and trust. I need help, but I despise therapy and getting help terrifies me. I decided to take the first step and ask the only person I trust enough. The problem is I don't know how, and I'm terrified she won't accept me or that I'll lose our relationship. I don't get to see her much, and when we do meet up, I can never find a place to bring it up. I can see her scars, I have heard her story, but I've kept mine hidden for so long that I don't know how to get the words across, or what words to even use. I've been looking at some of the Bulletin Board posts... any advice?  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClassC0088694A28F40EF83A8D19996063F17"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Thank you for contacting Your Life Your Voice.  It isn’t easy to reach out when you are struggling, but we are glad that you did.  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>It is great that you are thinking about talking with s</span><span>omeone</span><span>.  However, this </span><span>person appears to have struggles of her own.</span><span>  It may be difficult for her to give you the support you need if she is dealing with her own </span><span>issues.  It also appears that yo</span><span>u have infrequent contact with her</span><span>, which could also pose a problem for you to get help from her</span><span>.  Consider carefully if this person will be able to support you emotionally.  If you feel this person can't support you in this way, consider talking with </span><span>your parents, a school counselor, or another trusted adult.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>As far as how to "get the words across", you did a wonderful expressing your feelings in the email that you wrote to us.  How about just printing the email and showing it to the person you choose to confide in?  This way your feelings are right there, and you don't have to say anything.  Once  this person reads the email, you can have a conversation but things won't be as difficult as they'll already know how you are feeling and that you are looking for help.  </span><span><br></span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>You're very hard on yourself and are harboring negative thoughts about yourself.  Changing those thoughts involves working on your self-esteem as well as turning those negative thoughts around. There are some things that you can do to help bolster your self-esteem.  First of all, when you have negative thoughts about yourself try to counter those with positive thoughts.  You can make a list of positive things about you and write them down. Try to recall the positive things that other people have said about you.  Attached is a link to the </span><a href="/" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">www.yourlifeyourvoice.org</a><span> website which will provide you with a list of 101 positive things to say to yourself </span><a href="/SitePages/tips/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/SitePages/tips/tip-101-positive-things-to-say-to-myself.aspx</a><span>.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>When you start to have negative thoughts about yourself, pull out the list and read it to yourself.  It may take some time, but eventually your negative thought patterns will be turned around.  Ultimately the way to turn your negative thoughts around is to learn to love yourself </span><a href="/SitePages/tips/tip-the-mirror-rule.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/SitePages/tips/tip-the-mirror-rule.aspx</a><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span><a href="/sitepages/tips/tip-your-self-esteem.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/sitepages/tips/tip-your-self-esteem.aspx</a>.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>If your feelings persist, you should make an appointment to see your family physician so that your doctor can properly diagnose and treat your condition.  Your physician may recommend medication and/or therapy to help you get through this difficult time.  Although you despise therapy, it can be very helpful so that you do not have to live like this anymore.  A therapist is objective and is trained on helping people work through the emotional challenges they are having.  Many people are not able to work through their issues alone, but with the help of a therapist they can become emotionally healthy. </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Take care and please let us know how you are doing.  We are here for you.    </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p></div>15

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