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Suicide

My Boyfriend Ended His Life

<div class="ExternalClass0DF974ABAE59428F81CA5AE3AAEC36AA">My boyfriend has been going through bullying his whole life and this December he decided to end his life. I'm having a really hard time trying to stay positive but its hard. I have dealt with depression and everything before, but I don't want to go back to the way I was. So, how am I supposed to stay positive during this time of my life? Me and him have been best friends since we were in preschool. We did everything together and now it is hard for me to do any of those things that me and him did together. How do I get over that feeling of not wanting to do anything that me and him did? </div>

<div class="ExternalClassED929407F5E647A5B63DFC287FC2ECE9"> We are so sorry for your loss. We know how difficult losing someone important is and how hard it can be to carry on without them. It just doesn't seem right does it? We understand. You spent most of your life with this person and now he is gone so how do you keep going? We're so glad you reached out to talk with someone. This is the very thing we want you to do. Talk about it. Talk with trusted adults about how this is making you feel and the talk through these questions you have. Doing things without him will feel different for sure. But having the memories of these times with him are precious. Even more now. During this time you are grieving, know that it is okay to be upset and cry. It is okay to feel anger or sad. This is what grief is. Check this out for some help in understanding the stages. <a href="/Pages/tip-5-stages-of-grief.aspx"> http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-5-stages-of-grief.aspx</a> Follow the next article of 4 Ways to Ease Grief. Consider putting together a memory box. You spent a lot of time together and it sounds like you had some really good times. Put pictures and things in a box that remind you of all the time you did spend with him. You can add to it any time and use it as a way to preserve the memories you shared together. Memories are very therapeutic and can help people work through these tough times. This is going to be a tough time for you. We're not going to lie. Grief is hard to go through but not impossible. You will be able to get back to your life and doing things with others in time. You just have to use the support that you have, take care of yourself in every way (physically and mentally), and give yourself time. You may have to push yourself to get out and do things and sometimes it will seem impossible. The fact that you don't want to go back to dealing with depression is a good things. Nobody wants that for you. Keep in touch and know that we are always here for you. You are not alone and we will do what we can here to help you move through this and stay healthy. Take care. We are truly sorry you are going through this pain. Sincerely, Naina, counselor </div>

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