| He Won't Talk To Anyone But Me | Suicide | He Won't Talk To Anyone But Me | <div class="ExternalClassDC87637A43F8463EAC6C7FCA3F1DAAEE"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>So, my best friend is
gay and transgender. He has really bad depression and also suicidal thoughts.
He tried to commit suicide three times already and is now in the hospital. I
honestly think it's for the best. I go and visit him for four hours every Sunday
and I go with his parents. Once he asked me to bring him something to
"finish the job." I obviously said no and told someone. He says its
never going to get better. I have lots of hope that it will. But, if he can't
be more open-minded and optimistic then it won't. He won't talk to anyone but
me. He won't talk to his parents, his therapist, nobody. It is putting a lot of
pressure on me and I have no clue what to do about this. I am terrified of what
may happen and I don't want to live in fear anymore. I need help. </span></p>
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great you are reaching out to find ways to support your friend. He obviously
has a lot going on in his life. He is lucky that to have someone like you that
wants to help him. You made a great choice to find support for you both. It can
be scary when someone you care about makes comments regarding taking their own
life. It can cause us to be unsure, as we don’t know what to do or say. It is
good to keep in mind you are not responsible for any suicidal actions they
take, you can only focus on what you are able to control which is how you react
and the steps you take to get your friend support. You cannot control anything
he does and you cannot fix him.</span></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>It
is also unfair of him to refuse to talk to anyone but you. His parents
and his therapist are the ones who are able to help him, and try to encourage
him to open up to them so that he gets the help that he needs and
deserves. As you indicated, he has to be willing to partner with his
support team to get better. You did a good job telling his parents about his request to bring him something, continue to keep them in the loop of the things that he is saying to you. </span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>You
are right that he is in the best place that he can be. When he is
discharged if there is any immediate safety concern, reach out to his parents or 911 right
away. They are able to go assist your friend and can complete a wellness check
if you are scared he has done something or will soon. When speaking with a
friend who is feeling suicidal the best thing you can do is believe what they
are saying, listen to them, validate their feelings, encourage them to reach
out for help by speaking with a family member, or asking them to call us here
at the hotline, and then finally informing a trusted adult to get him further
support. Here is a link to an article on our site that includes some helpful
tips you could apply. While this is specific to helping a friend online the steps
you can take are very similar. </span><a href="/Pages/tip-helping-someone-online.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-help-online-suicidal-person.aspx</a><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Please
also consider reaching out to your parents. Talk about what is going on and ask them
to help. It is evident you care a lot about your friend and want to help
him. You are making the right choice!</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>We
want to be a support for you as well. We are here to offer you
support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Stay strong!</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p>
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