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I Thought My Problems Would Disappear At CollegeSchoolI Thought My Problems Would Disappear At College<div class="ExternalClass22FA62493473459387440E839BB29226"><p>​<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">So I have officially been a college freshman for a little more than two months. Well, it has been very hard getting to this point. In my senior year of high school, I foolishly believed that once I got to college, all my problems would just disappear. Well boy was I wrong. In fact college has made all my conditions much harder to deal with. I have asthma and attention deficit disorder. I am also a very anxious person but I was never diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, partly because I never told my parents I was struggling. Trying to manage my course load while also managing my asthma and ADD has been stressful. I find myself slipping into the anxiety spiral again. One thought would lead to another and another and before I know it my mind is racing with every trivial thought I can think of. Then comes the crash. Or as I like to call it, the tidal wave of depression. The wave of negativity crashes down and leaves me feeling numb and exhausted. I am so worn out from this internal battle that I have no motivation to complete my homework. I am so afraid that I am going to fail my classes but I have no motivation to get anything done. I have been battling this for so long that I just don't know what to do anymore. It is very hard for me to explain this to someone. I feel like if I tried to explain this to someone, they would tell me that I am fine and nothing is wrong with me but I know that is not true. I know that eating junk food because I have no energy to leave my dorm to get a decent meal is not normal. I know that not sleeping for two weeks straight is not okay. I know that scratching my hands until they bleed because I need to feel physical pain instead of emotional pain is not a good habit. I don't know what to do. Sorry this is so long. Thank you for reading this.  </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClassE60AB884B0E54BC3AB96E00C27BF8D4B"><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">We are glad you reached out for help, it takes courage ask for help. You really have a lot on your plate right now and that can be overwhelming. It  may be a good idea for you to call one of our crisis counselors at the <span style="text-decoration:underline;"> <strong>Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000</strong></span>. That way you can make a plan to address these issues and possibly find some referrals to begin seeing a professional Therapist. You may also want to check your campus health center as they often offer mental health services for a free or reduced price to students. Depression and ADD can best be addressed by a therapist and if medication is needed a referral to a Psychiatrist can be made by the therapist.  The good thing about campus health services is they are often free or very low cost for students.<br></span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">One suggestion we would make is to list each of the issues you are dealing with one at a time, then assign a number to each as to which one is the most urgent to get corrected. By attacking the issues one at a time rather than all of them all at one time can help it be less overwhelming. </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">We are concerned about you and want to help you.  You can get through this. You have taken a brave first step by emailing us.  If you don't think that you can manage to explain this to a therapist or another trusted adult in your life, simply print off the email you sent to us and let them read it. <br></span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">We would encourage you to check out our web site at </span> <a href="/"> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">www.yourlifeyourvoice.org</span></a><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">  where you will find many good tips and resources that may be helpful as well. Regarding your self-harming behavior of scratching your hands until they bleed, that is a coping skill, however it is not a positive coping skill. We recommend checking out the </span> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3" style="text-decoration:underline;"> <strong>99 Coping Skills</strong></span><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3"> in order to find some more appropriate and safe ways to cope. You may also find this article helpful as well, </span> <a href="/Pages/tip-anxiety-of-transitioning-to-college-life.aspx"> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-anxiety-of-transitioning-to-college-life.aspx</span></a><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">.  Another that may be helpful is, </span> <a href="/Pages/tip-12-steps-to-overcome-depression.aspx"> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-12-steps-to-overcome-depression.aspx</span></a><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">.</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Again, we are happy you contacted us for help. You have the power to work through these issues and make your future college experience a positive one.</span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Sincerely, </span></p><p> <span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Tom Crisis-Counselor</span><br></p></div>18

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