I Don't Want Her To DieSuicideI Don't Want Her To Die<div class="ExternalClass7BF58F3403904807948A9F258114C715"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">​<span style="">Hi! I'm not writing in about myself, but I'm really concerned about my friend. I've been friends with her for a while, and this year she started getting into some really bad, and really illegal behaviors. I'm not perfect, when I go to parties I drink. She's 2 years younger than me, and she shows up to school drunk and high according to everyone I know from her school. She also told me herself. It's like she's proud of it and I don't get it. She goes to sketchy places with sketchy people and gets black out drunk and she throws herself onto any guy that comes near her. I was going to drop her as a friend and that's really hard to do because I actually care a lot about her and she used to be so amazing. I've tried talking to her and she has no good excuse. Her mom gets mad at her and she gets grounded a lot and then she sneaks out and makes things worse. She's a lot meaner than she used to be. Her mom put her in therapy a little while ago. But this past weekend we were on our yearly camping trip which wasn't fun because all she did was talk about boys and getting high. While she was in the shower I asked her if I could look something up and I looked at her open tabs and it had things open like "painless suicide methods" and "what pills can you overdose on". I was going to drop her after my experience with her, but now I'm really scared for her. I don't want her to die. And her mom handles her feelings so badly, she just gets mad and screams at her. I'm just not sure what I should do or who I should talk to but I don't want her to die. ​</span></span></p></div><div class="ExternalClass6ABAB96EA3634488BD1780E8FF9AB29B"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">We are glad you have discovered our website and are reaching out tonight.  We can hear the frustration and fear you conveyed in your email for your friend.  Being friends with individuals who have self-destructive behaviors can feel conflicting.  We care for them, and even perhaps enjoy meaningful times with them.  Yet, their self-destructive behavior seems to intrude on the relationship more and more.  Based on what you described about your friend's behavior, she is in serious need of help.  If you don't feel it would be helpful to talk to her mom about her behaviors, perhaps you can talk to YOUR mom about your fears.  Together, hopefully, you and your mom will be able to come up with some adults who would​ be supportive of your friend.  This could be a coach, her school counselor, a youth leader or pastor.  Together, you an your mom could talk to that person about the things that you have observed.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">Having your mom's support during this difficult time will give you the strength to establish healthy boundaries with your friend.  It can be hard to b<span style="background-color:transparent;">e</span><span style="background-color:transparent;"> supportive of her as a person without condoning her destru</span><span style="background-color:transparent;">ctive behavior.  This can be a fine line to try and walk.  During this stressful time be sure to take care of yourself.  Carrying the awaren</span><span style="background-color:transparent;">ess of the seriousness of her issues may become a burden.  If you start feeling down or anxious be sure to talk to someone right away, don't sit alone with those feelings.</span></span> </p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">We want you to know we are here for you, and your friend.</span> </p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">Sincerely,</span> </p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">Larry – Counselor</span></p></div>16

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