Overwhelmed By Life And SchoolSchoolOverwhelmed By Life And School<div class="ExternalClassE3A73F4DA790446281400506774642B1"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>Hello, Recently I have been extremely overwhelmed by life and school. I have a bunch of college assignments that are piling up on top of each other this week, and I can't seem to find the energy to work on them. I've been really off my game the last few weeks, I'm not completely sure why, but I've dealt with depression and my family is having problems, so that doesn't help. I've been pretty emotional lately, and I keep having disturbing thoughts. My main concern right now is the schoolwork that I NEED to get done. I'm pretty perfectionistic, so being behind doesn't feel very good. Do you have suggestions for how I can concentrate while dealing with emotional/familial problems? At this point, I don't feel like I have the time to face the emotional problems head on (and the family problems I can't really help right now). Ideally, I want to be able to deal with those problems once and for all, but I've tried, and they always seem to come up again, especially when I'm feeling a lot of pressure (like right now with schoolwork). So, how do I handle these things at the same time? How do I concentrate when I have emotional distractions? Thank you! </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClass3845F7FB3C9048EC9634B14EF9B66CEB"><div><div class="ExternalClassE3A73F4DA790446281400506774642B1"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We are glad you have discovered our website and are reaching out tonight.  We can appreciate the weight and burden you are feeling and conveyed in your email.   Your insight into your feelings and what is going on is impressive.  Reaching out is the brave and wise thing to do, rather than reacting towards escaping the situation through self-defeating or self-destructive means, which will increase the burden. </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>It is important that you understand, and accept,  you cannot resolve, or “fix” everything at once.   Also, you only have control over what you do for you.   The perfectionism you mentioned can lead to procrastination as we are afraid what we will end up with will not be good enough,  which adds weight to the project and  the overall burden, which makes it harder to get started.   Start with focusing on the priority now,  school work.    Family issues have likely been there for a while, if not a long time, so will keep until you get caught up on school.   </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Organize and prioritize your school projects.  Remove yourself from distractions to allow yourself to get into the “flow” of the work.    There is an old saying, “By the inch it is a cinch, by the yard it is hard.”   One step at a time until the momentum gets going, and the flow will start.   If you start getting distracted with thoughts of perfection on the project, tell yourself that for these projects, good is good enough.  That is your “perfection” for these projects. </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We want you to know we are here for you.  Please let us know if you would like to talk further.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Sincerely,</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Larry – Counselor</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>18

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