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School

New Girl In School

<div class="ExternalClass31C2A54351D74955B960F4CDAC8C8FC5">I used to have a lot of friends. Then this new girl came and all my friends hang out with her. Now that the new girl is here, no one in my P.E. class talks to me. I feel really left out. I am still myself but nobody in that class cares. Sometimes it makes me want to cry or to switch my schedules. What should I do? </div>

<div class="ExternalClass5E397594B43A440492F41113064A5E20"> Thanks so much for emailing in. It sounds like your feelings have really been hurt and that you are not sure if these girls can still be called your friends. It can be hard when someone new comes into the group. It's kind of like a new adventure, a little bit exciting and interesting, and everyone wants to be around the "new girl". Things will probably settle down though. Think about one or two friends you feel comfortable with that you can walk up to and start a conversation. Sometimes it helps if you start the conversation with a genuine compliment like for instance if you were in gym class "that was an awesome spike" or by asking them an open ended question in which they'll have to say more than yes or no like "Hey what did you think of that test?" It's actually a good thing to widen your circle of friends, but there is no doubt you feel bad that some of your older friends have tuned you out. Hang out with the ones that are nice to you all of the time. If you need a partner in gym, smile and run up to someone who you think could use one. People like to hang out with kids who are kind to them. When your heart is hurting and you feel like crying, that is ok and sometimes can even give you some relief, but know that you can always email here too ok. Give it until the end of semester especially if you are still interested in being friends with these girls. Laura, Crisis Counselor </div>

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