How Do I Fit In At School?SchoolHow Do I Fit In At School?<div class="ExternalClassE7E1FFC47430440988513143D003D4ED"><p>​<span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">I just feel like I don't fit in at school and everyone talks behind my back?! </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClassA670952D7FCD4D0993DEA691E0211DA7"><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Thanks for emailing in. This is not a fun feeling to have because right now you probably spend a lot of hours each day at school. It should be a safe environment – a learning environment – but also one where you get to hang with your peers, enjoy some extra-curriculars, and grow in more ways than just academically.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">We do not know if you are new at this school, if you are no longer hanging out with your circle of friends you've always had, or if something happened to make you feel like you are just on your own. Freshman and Sophomore years are hard, and a lot of friendships usually change around these ages because some kids choose to do riskier behaviors while others kind of stay away from that. In addition, kids meet new friends if they are on the sports teams and so naturally they are together more and making social plans just due to the convenience of being together so often. Other kids feel they need to be in the "in group," (which really is not even all that) so they are very busy trying to impress others. </span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">We believe you when you say you feel like others are talking about you. Can you identify if it kids who talk about everybody – you know the ones who want to be the first to pass on information or share someone's secret or get attention for telling some juicy news. If so, it's likely you cannot change them, but you can change the way you react to them or choose to hang with others. If you are feeing hurt because you feel someone you considered a friend is doing it, are you comfortable approaching this person in private to let them know how you are feeling? If so use a "feeling statement". Instead of saying "I think you are being ____________," say "I feel left out right now like others are talking about me."</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Think about what your interests are too. Join a club, team, or organization that you really take an interest in because of what it is and not who is in it. You will find your place, but absolutely reach out to the hotline here if ever need to talk, ok?</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></p></div>14

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