The Only Person I Loved Was Taken AwayRelationshipsThe Only Person I Loved Was Taken Away<div class="ExternalClass2E92790EAB124EC6B5AC3DB7A15A50E3"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>All of my problems started when me and my girlfriend broke up. I don't pay attention in school. I have troubles sleeping and it affects alot to my social life. I cut my ties with my family and started drinking and smoking. My dad is always drunk and my mom keeps yelling at me,she even told me that she wished I was never born. Stress keeps building up and I have thought about ending my life everyday since then. I know that my story seems silly or not that important but try and think that when the person you love the most and they are the only happiness you can find in darkest of time is taken away from you, leaving you with nothing but false hopes, its not good. Please help me. </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClass0206DF1907C84318BE7C04342CF042C2"><div><div class="ExternalClass2E92790EAB124EC6B5AC3DB7A15A50E3"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Thank you for reaching out to Your Life Your Voice. It really sounds like you are going through a difficult time and that your thoughts are causing your life to spiral out of control. You made the right choice to reach out for help and it’s a good step you were able to admit that.  It shows strength in even what may feel like one of your darkest moments. We are very concerned for you as you mentioned you are having thoughts of suicide. Please know suicide is not the answer for any problem. Life can present us many challenges and right now you are struggling. Suicide might seem like the only option you have to get away from the pain you are feeling, but in reality, it doesn’t make things any better. It is permanent, so it takes away the option for you to have the opportunity to feel better and live your life to the fullest.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>If you feel that you are not able to keep yourself safe, reach out for support immediately. This can be by calling 911 or calling us here at the hotline. We are here to support you and talk to you about what is going on and what is causing you to feel this way.  There is help available and you are not alone. Using healthy coping skills can you help get through difficult times. It can take time to find the best the options to heal and cope, but suicide should not be one of those options.  For today, let’s make a plan and a promise and a goal to keep you safe. Finding a different outlet to help you work through your feelings in a healthy way would be a wise choice.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Going through a break up is so difficult. It's normal to go through a grieving process when relationships end.  We understand that it hurts unbearably right now and we will be here to talk any time you feel up to talking.  We hope these links will be helpful as well: </span><span> </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><a href="/Pages/tip-break-ups.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-break-ups.aspx</a><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><a href="/Pages/tip-shoe-box-therapy.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-shoe-box-therapy.aspx</a> </p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">You have a lot going on at home.  You are in a tough position.  Your dad is an alcoholic and his behavior is causing chaos in your home.  It also has to be tough because your father's priority is his drinking instead of his family.  Alcoholism is a disease and it doesn't just impact the alcoholic, but the entire family.  It also sounds as if your mother is taking out her stress and frustrations about his drinking on you.<br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>While it might help to understand why he can't be your dad and a husband to your mother, it doesn't lessen the pain and anger.  If you dad isn't in a place where he can seek treatment, it would certainly be helpful for you and your mom to see a counselor.  A counselor can help you understand the disease process, and can also help you work through your feelings about your father's addiction.</span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>When the situation becomes overwhelming at home, please reach out to supportive people who can help you.  This could be a family member, a teacher, a coach, a religious leader, or another trusted adult.  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We want you to know that we are here for you.  If you would like to talk more about this issue you can call the Boys Town National Hotline.   Crisis counselors are available, 24/7,  at 1-800-448-3000.  </span><span>Please take care and let us know how you are doing. </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>16

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