College In a Different StateSchoolCollege In a Different State<div class="ExternalClassA957AF0BDE9F4F769F8358CCA8632F3E"><p>​<span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Hi. I'm just feeling a bit anxious about something. I have recently gotten into my dream college. I am quite excited, but also nervous. It's in a different state, which means I'm starting over in a whole new environment. I'll have to make new friends, but I'm scared I won't be able to. I don't have many friends now. You'd think at 20 I'd know how to socialize. But I'm just such a quiet/timid person. My question is, how can I get over this anxiety of starting over in a new place, and this fear that I won't make any new friends? </span><br></p></div><div class="ExternalClass33E8C3A584244AC0B45412A8B17AD680"><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Thank you for reaching out for help when you are feeling so anxious about starting new at this college. First off, congratulations on getting accepted into your dream college! You must have worked very hard in order to get into the school, and it is great to hear that your hard work is paying off! On the flip side, the anxiety about going to college, making friends, and getting settled in at this new environment is completely normal! Even if you are 20-years-old, almost everyone that is going through a change that big would experience some sort of fear or anxiety about the situation.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">The great thing about college is that almost everyone on campus, especially the first-year students, are in the same boat as you; they are starting fresh, needing to connect with others, and are worried about finding a group where they can fit in. Because everyone else is in the same boat, it is almost easier to relate to others because they understand why you might be shy and timid (because you don't know anybody just yet!).</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">Another great thing about college is that it is a fresh start. No one knows you here so you can be yourself and find a group that fits you based on being yourself; you aren't confined to being that person forever because there is always a chance that you might not see those people again (depending on the size of your campus). Sometimes keeping this in mind gives ourselves a chance to try something new and push ourselves out of our comfort zone.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">It can be overwhelming to think about going to college, and your anxiety is totally normal. To maybe help ease some of the stress and tension, please check out this link on tips about transitioning to adulthood: </span><a href="/Pages/transitioning-to-adulthood.aspx"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/transitioning-to-adulthood.aspx</span></a><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;"> Please notice that there is an entire page on going back to college that might be particularly helpful for you.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">You are never alone on this journey of life! If you ever need some immediate support, please give us a call at (800) 448-3000; we are 24/7 and want to help in any way possible so you can truly enjoy this stage in your life. Take care!</span></p><p><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:17.3333px;">PC – Counselor </span><br></p></div>20

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