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Relationships

Can't Get Over Him

<div class="ExternalClassB0474084A573473F99E441CC0755405B">So I'm an eighth grader, and I've been basically in love with this kid in my grade since we met forever ago, and I don't really know what to do, because we don't really get along, which is what makes me caring about him so much so weird. I've literally tried everything to get over him but I just can't. And my friends say he's dumb and stuff, you know, like any normal friend says about anyone you would like, but it makes me so mad. Like, I just don't know what to do with my life anymore, and I don't know what to do about him. </div>

<div class="ExternalClassA96C6B4AA5394B1EAB4A77E213E10640">Thank you for reaching out for help when you are battling such a complicated issue as trying to get over a guy that you like. It's OK to like someone who doesn't like you back. It shows that you have a big and loving heart, you might be seeing some positive qualities in this person that others may be missing. In this case, your mind might be playing tricks on you and causing you to romanticize your feelings about this boy. Although this is normal, as you are finding out, it can be kind of annoying because you want to move on but your mind keeps bringing this boy back into your thoughts. We have a couple of tips for you to try: <a href="/Pages/tip-control-your-urges.aspx?Topic=Break%20Ups">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-control-your-urges.aspx</a> <a href="/Pages/tip-shoe-box-therapy.aspx?Topic=Break%20Ups">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/tip-shoe-box-therapy.aspx</a> Also, look for things that you can control in this situation.<a href="/JournalPages/What-can-you-control.pdf?Topic=Break%20Ups">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/JournalPages/What-can-you-control.pdf</a> Can you find ways to reduce how much you are seeing this boy? When your thoughts turn towards him, find other things you can think about instead. Do a game on your phone, work on a hobby or help around the house. You have done an amazing thing already by talking with your friends about this guy so that they can give you support. Next time you turn to them for support, tell them you don't want to talk about your crush, instead you want to talk about other things so your mind will be distracted. The more you change your thoughts, the more your heart will heal. We understand that managing these caring feelings for this guy is a big task for one person to take on alone. Please don't hesitate to reach out to us for more support. You can reach us 24/7 at (800) 448-3000. Please continue taking care of yourself and reaching out to us whenever you need some extra support!PC – Counselor </div>

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