| Birthdays After A Break Up | Relationships | Birthdays After A Break Up | <div class="ExternalClassF4214DE4B0D6432488DFC4A8EDD12AA0"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">About 6 months ago I
dealt with a breakup. It wore on me for months, but I’m starting to get better.
However, little things like today will still make me overthink. So today it was
somebody’s birthday at work, and they got him a cake and everything and sang
him happy birthday, and I’m completely happy for him. But it also reminded me
that birthdays have always been rough for me, to the point I just pretend my
own doesn’t happen; that is, until my ex last year made wrote me this really
sweet card that I still haven’t gotten rid of. The issue is, I still feel like
that won’t ever happen again, and that this next birthday is gonna be the worst
one yet because nobody is gonna remember and I’ll just hate it, and I’m so
tired of feeling this way. </span><br></p></div> | <div class="ExternalClassA553F5BB671A4B0EB81AEDED912D1DA5"><p>
<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">You are right breakups are hard. It might feel like you will never be happy again or find the right person, but most times people do. It is ok to hold onto material things that were special to you like the card you received. In fact, pack it away. You do not want additional reminders, because there are going to be certain things like the birthday of your co-worker that trigger the memories anyway. One day though, you might actually like reminiscing and looking through some things like that.</span></p><p>
<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">You can make this next birthday special too. If your family does not really celebrate now that you are a young adult, start a new tradition make a cake and invite them over. Tell them no presents, just your presence. Do you know if it was just a friend of your co-workers who brought a cake in? Maybe your company really does not do anything formal, but if it is important to you, bring your favorite donuts in to share. It's ok to say "It's my birthday today. Stop by my desk for a treat," and have a bowl of your favorite candy out. Ahead of time just ask a friend or two if they can meet after work for a quick appetizer somewhere to celebrate your 23<sup>rd</sup>.</span></p><p>
<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Some other ideas are to see if you can hang up a posting every month of co-workers that are celebrating their birthday that given month. People see it and at least can shout out a Happy Birthday. Someone here in our office announced he loved the color coral and asked everyone to wear that color on his special day. In another office, the tradition is a "chain reaction". Whoever celebrated their birthday last is the one who brings the dessert for the next birthday person and so on. </span></p><p>
<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">This is important to you, so make your birthday a good one. If you get excited about it, others will too. </span></p><p>
<span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Laura, Crisis Counselor</span><br></p></div> | 20 | | |
