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Best Friend Is Ignoring Me

<div class="ExternalClass4BC9366AAC914F9381ECFED72FF296DA">My best friend in the whole world is ignoring me. I have severe anxiety so when she doesn't respond to my messages and it just shows read it makes me really nervous and anxious. I am really worried. I didn't do anything to make her mad, but I don't know for sure if I did because she won't speak to me. I have just recently met her. Having a good friends is key to dealing with my anxiety so I really can't handle losing her. Even though I know you don't stay friends with the people you were friends with in Junior High when you are in high school. This is really working on my nerves please help me. </div>

<div class="ExternalClassB46643DF40EE46B6BCD86B1316E9049C"><div><div class="ExternalClass4BC9366AAC914F9381ECFED72FF296DA">Thank you for reaching out to the Your Life Your Voice website. You did a great thing by reaching out to talk about the struggles you are experiencing, which is not always an easy thing to do. We are here to offer support to you. Dealing with anxiety can be challenging. Everyone deals with some form of anxiety in their life especially in stressful situations. Certainly some experience more challenges than others. When you have anxiety it is so important you take care of yourself, practice healthy coping skills and take time for yourself. If you feel that the anxiety you are having is taking over your life, it is important to talk to your parents or even school counselor so you can see a therapist or your doctor to get more help. It sounds like right now though you are specifically having anxiety over your friend not responding to you. When that happens the mind can wander leading you to be curious why you are not getting a response. We cannot control the actions of others and cannot make assumptions as to what others are thinking. That is a slippery slope that can turn a situation into something it is not. If you are concerned your friend is mad at you, the best thing to do is to ask. It can be scary but can help you find out if she is or is no. It very well could be she is busy, or just needs some time to herself which are also plausible explanations. Having friends to help you get through your anxiety is great and it is nice to have a support system like that. It is also good to be able to work through those feelings in your own way that doesn’t require someone else. Be sure you are getting good rest nightly, eating well, exercising, journaling, or try many other coping skills to get through anxiety. Our website has some articles that you may find helpful as they discuss coping skills and tips for dealing with anxiety: <a href="/Pages/tip-Dealing-with-Anxiety.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-Dealing-with-Anxiety.aspx</a> <a href="/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx</a> We want to be a support for you. We are here to offer you support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Stay strong! Sincerely, Brittany, Counselor </div></div> </div>

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