I Don't Know How To Help HimRelationshipsI Don't Know How To Help Him<div class="ExternalClass1F9716F883A74CC490BF62B987A772F9"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>Uh, I guess to start out.. Hello! I guess I'm not really sure how to go about this. See, I've dealt with my own depression, anxiety, panic attacks, the works. But it's my boyfriend I'm worried about. He's going through a really rough time; he just started college and doesn't think he'll be able to afford his last quarter next year, his car is dying on him, his home life is in shambles and crumbling more. He tells me how he doesn't care about anything anymore, and that he doesn't want to live anymore. I don't know how to help him. </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClass2BCFCBADC85D436FAA455E7BD45E86E6"><div><div class="ExternalClass1F9716F883A74CC490BF62B987A772F9"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Thank you for contacting Your Life Your Voice.  Your boyfriend sounds is if has a number of things that are going on with him; any one of these issues can be overwhelming, let alone dealing with all of them.  The one good thing is that he has you as a support in his life.  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>If you feel that your boyfriend cannot stay safe, then encourage him to go to the nearest emergency room or call 911.   It is also important for him to develop a safety plan for when he is having suicidal thoughts.  Encourage him to identify supportive people in his life that he can reach out to when he is struggling.  This could include supportive family members, friends, or he can call the Boys Town National Hotline and talk to a crisis counselor.  </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>It is also important that he develop healthy coping skills that he can use when he is having a tough time.  These can include journaling his feelings, exercise, listening to music, working on a project or hobby, and hanging out with friends.  Attached is a list of 99 coping skills that he may find helpful </span><a href="/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx</a><span>.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Most colleges and universities have a student counseling service that is available to students.  You may want to encourage him to make an appointment to see a counselor so that he can get the help that he needs and deserves.  In addition, he might want to talk to a financial aid person at school to see if he can make financial arrangements for paying tuition or if there is financial help available, including scholarships or grants.  </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>If you would like to talk more about this issue, give us a call - 1-800-448-3000</span><span>.  Please encourage him to contact us directly; we are here to help him.  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>Take care.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>17

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