| My Friend Is In A Bad Relationship | Relationships | My Friend Is In A Bad Relationship | <div class="ExternalClass62FDC8D2CF7146B7BB4BB25BD25C4CA6"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>My friend is in a really bad relationship and
I've tried to help her but I don't know what to do anymore. All they do is
fight and he's controlling and he "gets rough" with her like grabbing
her or shaking her when they fight. I'm afraid one time he'll hit her. She sometimes has bruises that she says she just doesn't know where they came
from. She has also threatened to kill herself and attempted because of all the
fighting. He has threatened her and had a loaded gun one time when he did.
She's 17 and he's 16, and they said they wanted to try to have a kid and when
they actually did they both flipped out and said that they're not ready but now he wants it but she doesn't want it and he gets mad when it's brought
up. She changes her mind about what she wants. One minute she loves him
and wants the kid the next she just wants to break it off but she never
does. I have tried my hardest to help her and I just don't know what to do
anymore. </span></p>
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that you are concerned about your friend. Being a parent at 17 is very difficult. If your friend is already pregnant, encourage her to look into the supports in your area for teen moms. Tell her that it is is ok to ask for help. </span></p>
<p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>If your friend is not already pregnant remind her that she may not be ready to be a
parent. Talk to her about the things that a baby will need and the financial commitment that comes with having a baby. Don't let her believe that a baby will fix everything. While a baby is beautiful and sweet and snuggly they also need to have their diaper changed and they need someone to stay up with them when they are crying all night. Babies are a big responsibility. </span></p>
<p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>It sounds
as though your friend's boyfriend is controlling her both physically and emotionally. It is
not a healthy relationship for either of them and especially for her. </span></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Are you aware
of her parent's knowledge of this situation? If they don't know, we
suggest that you inform them just as you did us. She will be against it
but if she doesn't get some help, you could lose her. She obviously
trusts you or you would not have all of this information. A true friend
can be trusted to do what is best for her and that is to turn it over to
someone who can actually provide her with the help she needs.</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>She has got to
break free from the control this boy has over her. She is not safe,
either physically or emotionally. She would benefit from therapy to help
her re-balance her emotions and get her thoughts back in a healthy order.
If she is desperate enough to consider suicide as a possible solution, it is
too serious for you to attempt to handle on your own.</span><br></p>
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