He Wants Me To MoveRelationshipsHe Wants Me To Move<div class="ExternalClassD721DEEC5ED14D75A14F56535DDC27E6"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>I'm in a pickle here and I don't know who to talk to or what to do. My boyfriend of 1.5 yrs wants me to move 2.5 hrs away from were I live to where he lives. I just turned 18 and we've talked about this for 10 months now, but now that it's happening I'm having second thoughts. I stayed the night with him 2 nights in a row and came back today and he's expecting me to come back tonight at 10:00 pm to move in or else we will never talk again and be broken up for good. I don't know what to do and its giving me anxiety and I don't know who to talk to. I want to be with him but idk if I want to move away. Please help. </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClass2F4184F8D4004EC68C22EF245B2D7DE1"><div><div class="ExternalClassD721DEEC5ED14D75A14F56535DDC27E6"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>You are right to have second thoughts about such a big decision.  It is important to weigh all the facts before you commit to moving over 2 hours away.  You are giving up your home, your friends, and other support systems to relocate.  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>The fact that he is essentially threatening you that if you are not prepared to move in tonight he will break up with you is concerning.  This shouldn’t be an “all or nothing” proposition, and the question that comes up is why does it have to be tonight?   You should not be forced to make a decision that is not based on what is good for you.  You are the one who is giving everything up.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>You want to be with him, but you are giving up a lot.  The fact that you are hesitant may be an indicator that you aren’t ready to make this move.  The best thing that you can do is to make a list of pros and cons about the situation.  If you have more on your list that are negatives, then you may want to reconsider. For you to make this very important move there should be a lot more pros than cons.</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><span>We want you to know that we are here for you. </span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"> </span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;">Nancy, counselor</span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>18

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