Why All The Excuses?RelationshipsWhy All The Excuses?<div class="ExternalClassFC462C9A9D194AAFAB2F86BAB71C319C"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half but we have broken up a couple of times for very short periods of time and I truly believe he is the one. Recently he found out and told me he has to move out of state to live with his dad and in turn wants to break up with me. I can understand why but the reasons he gave me made it sound like he was convincing himself that this was the right thing to do because he didn't want to do it in the first place. For example, he told me that he cant handle long distance, then he told me I didn't love him or care for him, and then he said I cheated on him but I didnt. He then told me he is still in love with me but he has to focus on himself and school. I would understand if he just doesn't want to date but why all the excuses? After all of this he started being very forward and mean, like he put his walls back up and refused to let me in to talk or even explain to him things. At this point I was on the verge of a break down which did happen. I told him that I didn't want to be here anymore and things like that. He got worried about me and called the police and they had to take me to the hospital to which I got admitted to he psych ward for a couple days. My parents have my phone so I haven't been able to talk to him since this all happened and he is leaving at the end of the month. I feel so powerless and stuck, I still have feelings of depression and I don't know what to do. I have nobody to talk to.  </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClassE938BC25C5EB4252BC1DD639E0DF79CF"><div style="text-align:left;font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;"><p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span>It sounds like there’s a lot of negative communication going on between you and your boyfriend. Break ups can be confusing and painful. He sounds confused about his own feelings. It sounds as if he can’t decide what he really wants.  It sounds like both of you need space to think and let time pass to see what happens.  We have an article to share with you about break ups that might help you to sort out your feelings:</span></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"><a href="/Pages/tip-break-ups.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-break-ups.aspx</a>.  </p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="color:black;">Sometimes in life we are faced with very difficult circumstances and when we begin to feel that these stressors in life become too difficult; this is a sign that it is time to reach out for support. We can not expect ourselves to handle this completely on our own. Please know, that is is never too late to turn over a new leaf. It is possible to get help and as time passes, you will be able to recover. There is support available.</span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span> </span><span>Talking with someone can help you see beyond the immediate pain you are experiencing and help you get through it.</span></span><br><span style="color:black;"></span></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span>We are here to talk with you about everything that is going on and the things that are causing you to feel this way.   You can chat or text with a crisis counselor through</span><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><a href="/" style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);">www.yourlifeyourvoice.org</a><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span>if you prefer that method for more support. If at any time you feel that you aren't safe, be sure to let an adult know right away. Through this all, make it a priority to keep yourself safe and take good care of yourself.</span><br></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span>We are here for you and look forward to hearing back from you.</span><br></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span>Stay safe,</span><br></p> <p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="color:black;"></span>Nicole, Counselor</p></div> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span> <div><div class="ExternalClassFC462C9A9D194AAFAB2F86BAB71C319C"><div style="text-align:left;"><span style="font-size:16px;"> </span> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div></div> <div> </div></div>16

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