| She Just Vanished From My Life | Relationships | She Just Vanished From My Life | <div class="ExternalClass301B138E8DD14F1FA5DC6B6DE311DB09"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>So this is gonna sound really silly, and you'll
probably give me the response my parents gave me, but, a few months ago I met a
girl and we started talking, but we clicked. We had a lot of things in common,
talking to each other was easy and smooth, she accepted me as I am, I accepted
her for who she was. She went through hard times, and I was there for her and
vice versa. My parents didn't want me around her, but we kept talking,
because I guess I'm a little bit rebellious. My parents found out we
were still talking, were angry, but eventually just let us talk. But two weeks
later her parents tell her not to talk to me, and we tried to make it work, but
she just vanished from my life. Gone. And I feel really empty and my parents
think I'm emotional and they call me a PMS girl. I loved this girl like a
sister and she's gone and nobody understands me, they just think I'm like every
other teenager in junior high, with a silly immature relationship. Even though
we weren't even dating. </span></p>
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</span></div> | <div class="ExternalClass383E51A21DD84A94B01F1CCAE5E0484C"><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>We can hear the
frustration and sadness in your writing. When relationships end without
explanation it is difficult to handle regardless of age or longevity of the
relationship. It does sound as though there was something going on with
your connection to one another that concerned both your parents and hers or
they would not have intervened as adamantly as they did. Something made
them feel that the two of you were not good for one another or that you had
become too dependent on one another.</span></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>We d</span><span>on't know
that of course, but there has to be more to this. Parents are continually
observing their kid's behaviors and when there are changes in behaviors,
especially negative ones, they attempt to connect them to what is happening or
happened at the time the change began to occur. Typically parents want
their kids to be happy, healthy and safe both physically and emotionally.
They often are willing to do anything and everything to ensure that.</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>For your own
piece of mind, try to think of whether they may have seen changes in you that
would have concerned them or perhaps her parents saw changes in her behaviors
that concerned them. There has got to be something if you look closely
enough. If you truly cannot identify anything, perhaps you would consider
asking your parents. We don't recommend that if you are not certain that
you will be able to just "LISTEN" to what they have to say without
arguing, becoming verbally defensive, denying or becoming angry. That
would only worsen the situation.</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>We truly hope you get some answers so you can better accept the
outcome for yourself and for the girl.</span><br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Sincerely,</span></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Pat, Counselor </span></p>
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