Why Don't I Care About Boys?RelationshipsWhy Don't I Care About Boys?<div class="ExternalClass8F78899E8484433F93D9385DE8A26801"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4">​<span>I don't know why I'm even asking this question, but why don't I care about interacting with boys or having a boyfriend or flirting at all or even socializing with people in general? But mostly the boys thing. My focus isn't actually on boys, it's mostly school and church which is great and all but there's more to life than just those two things including boys or in other words the discovery of love. Now I've had a few crushes or even been talking with a guy but sadly I got my heart broken really really really badly. The guy I was talking to broke my heart. I never really actually got the chance to spend an actual date with him. Pretty sad. I never even talk to guys in person. It makes me too nervous. I've only ever grew up with sisters, therefore I can talk to girls easily. I've read once that if someone wanted to be a part of another person's life they would make it happen kinda like how actions speak louder than words. Why am I so scared to put myself out there? Why don't I care about experiencing love with a potential boyfriend? Shouldn't I care even if it isn't the right time to be worrying this type of thing? I almost feel like the ugly duckling. Who would ever like me? I get so worked up when it comes to love, but why? Everyone around me likes being in relationships​. Why don't I care? </span></span></p></div><div class="ExternalClass55515F4B84A34D9F9CB120758B478232"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Truly there is nothing wrong with you.  The dating scene or love interests just has not been a priority for you, and there is nothing wrong with that.  Church and school are wonderful things to take an active part in.  Sometimes you meet someone with common interests when you engage in group activities like that which is nice because you both have the same interests which will help with conversation starters.  Some of the best love stories came out of friendships too, so keep that in mind.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Right now it's peaking your interest a bit, but like every new activity, environment, or relationship you try, it comes with a little bit of nervousness which is normal.  What if I don't like this?  What if he does not like me?  What if I don't know what to say?  What if we don't have anything in common?  You find those things out by drumming up a friendship first and then deciding if that person is someone you have fun with and enjoy being around.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Check with your parents too.  Most parents have rules that pertain to dating, so find out what they are in your home, so you'll know what is expected of you.  If some of your friends or an older sister might have some friendly advice for you, talk to them too.  The nice thing is you don't have to be committed to anyone right now.  If you meet a guy who is genuine, kind, seems to take an interest in you, and you have fun with, maybe it turns into a friendship and who knows down the line maybe something more. Your heart might get broken again, but you might break some hearts too.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Even a 25-year-old or a 50-year-old worries a little bit about dating, because you are right, you put yourself out there and take a chance with the hopes that "this will be the guy".  That is why there is such a thing as dating, so you find out what type of guy appeals to you.  If you really don't want to date, that's ok.  Wait a few more years.  You'll know when you are ready.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">​Laura, Crisis Counselor​</span></p></div>17

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