| He Was The Love Of My Life | Relationships | He Was The Love Of My Life | <div class="ExternalClass51B960D2D3954B9EAEB4632D8BCEB3C8"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>I was just in a
relationship for 5 months. He was literally the love of my life, like he meant
every thing imaginable to me. We've been broken up for a week now, and it's
only gotten harder every day. I cry every night, and have dreams about us, and
it seems as if he's always in my head. I moved to another state about a month
ago due to family issues, but i was suppose to go back very
shortly. Once I got here he became more distant, and at first I didn't notice,
but he changed a lot. He always said he was happy with me, and he loved me a
lot, and how much of a future he wanted with me, then one day he just decided
he didn't want be with me anymore .. it's been so very difficult. How can
someone just change like that? How can they build someone up, then just toss
them aside like nothing? He doesn't even talk to me anymore, and I don't know
why. I don't even know what I did wrong either. He meant so much to me, I have
incredibly bad trust issues, but I let him in, and got so close to him. I told
him things I have never told anyone, and it just hurts. He's completely over
me, but I can't seem to let go. How am I supposed to? It just doesn't make
sense, and I don't know what to do. Please, just help me some way. </span></p>
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</span></div> | <div class="ExternalClass0995B78ECC924A95A88D3D885AE269BF"><div><div class="ExternalClass51B960D2D3954B9EAEB4632D8BCEB3C8"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);">Thanks for reaching out to the hotline. Sorry to hear
that this breakup is really tearing you apart. It sounds like both of you
cared for each other, but there is something that is not working. Sometimes
it doesn't have to be someone's fault. For starters, you are still very
young. At your age even friendships can be ever changing, because circles
of friends get larger in high school, some kids are going to lean toward that
group who engages in risky behavior, others tend to stay on the safe
side. Some teens are really into the dating scene while others want their
focus to be on school or sports. In other words, it might be that
you did nothing wrong and he did nothing wrong, but this relationship is just
not working now.</p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);">Your heart hurts right now. You want answers. You
don’t know if you are going to get answers. One thing is for certain is
that he did not know what he wanted, because it does sound like you got a lot of
mixed messages.<br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);">After a break up it is important to reach out to friends and
family who support you. This is the time when you need to ask yourself how you
can find some happiness from within. Not one person is going to make you
happy. Some of that has to come from you. Busy yourself with a
hobby that you have not had time for lately. Call some friends and plan a
day out. Get some exercise. Exercise will release endorphins from
your brain and give you some emotional relief. Happiness will come back
if you invite it back. Make a list of what makes you happy. Make it
a point to do some of those things this week. Time truly is a big healer,
but the healing cannot begin if you do not let go. We know this is not
easy, and no one can know the pain you are feeling, because this is your story,
but we are hear for you and if you want to talk, chat or text, please do.<br></p>
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</span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></span><br></p>
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