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I Like My Best FriendRelationshipsI Like My Best Friend<div class="ExternalClassF38CC55D55B849B5B71DA34441BA1B59"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">​I think I like my best friend, but he's dating my other best friend. I just started dating this orher guy to distract myself from their relationship, but its really not going well and I don't want to hurt his feelings by breaking up with him. No one (until now) knows I like my best friend and idk what to do. </span></p></div><div class="ExternalClass466497DE0E874CE39EACA55C45410D1A"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">It can be overwhelming to navigate complicated situations like this.  It sounds like you are trying to take everyone's feelings into account before making a decision.  That shows how much they mean to you, but can also be very stressful.  We are glad that you are reaching out for support.  This situation is so tough, but you don't have to handle it alone. </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">What it comes down to is: what do you value most?  You mentioned that these are your best friends.  If you are honest about your feelings, it could come in between your friendships with both of them.  Part of being a close friend with someone is respecting their relationships.  It could be helpful to take some time and think about what you find more important and what you are risking.  It does sound like these friendships mean a lot to you.  So, maybe take some time to see if these feelings for your friend are lasting.  In some situations, feelings like that can pass with some time.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">What is it that you like about him?  Maybe acknowledging that could help you see what qualities you are looking for in someone else.  As for the other guy you are dating, using him as a distraction is not a good foundation for a relationship.  While break ups are hard, if your heart is not in it, it is not fair to either of you to keep it going. </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">We have a great tip that we think might help you sort through this:</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3"><span style="line-height:115%;"><a href="/Pages/More-than-Friends.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/More-than-Friends.aspx</a></span><br></span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Thank you so much for taking this step for yourself. We are here for you, and we hope you reach out for more support!</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Sincerely,</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3">Katie, Counselor</span></p></div>15

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