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I Really Like HerRelationshipsI Really Like Her<div class="ExternalClassB8C92D51EB13458D9D97EA924D7542A4"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;">​<span>Hi, I'm having a problem with a friend right now. About a year ago we used to have a thing and I really like her but when I asked her out she said we should stay friends but for the next six months she was still really flirty and touchy with me but still said she didn't like me. We still were very very close friends and we told each other everything. But one day she just randomly stopped talking to me completely for about a month and a half. At that time I wanted to hurt myself but I never did. Eventually she unblocked me on her phone and started talking to me again but barely. That went on for a few weeks but then she blocked me again and said we can only talk when we see each other in school. But I can tell she doesn't like talking to me or being around me anymore because she always just ignores me and talks to other people. She says she still wants to be my friend but she doesn't act like it at all. And its not like it used to be as best friends, its only talking in school which we only see each other for one class and she usually doesn't talk to me. It really bothers me and idk what to do. She also promised me a few months ago that she'd go to prom with me but just the other day I heard her talking about asking a guy she likes.  I told her she promised me but now she's just saying sorry, no. I started to become really depressed again after that and thought about hurting myself again. I just want things to go back to the way they were. I don't know what to do. </span><span>Thank you bye. </span></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div><div class="ExternalClassDDFD8BED90AC4101B6DF150927A67B76"><div><div class="ExternalClassB8C92D51EB13458D9D97EA924D7542A4"><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>It’s great that you are reaching out, and very clear that you are hurting on the inside.  This is a tough one to figure out, because it sounds like you really have been getting some mixed signals from her.  Although she too might have been struggling to make sense of it all too.  Maybe when she realized that you might be interested in more than just a friendship and she told you she just wanted to keep it at a friendship level, she felt like she needed to back off a bit or when she became interested in another guy she felt she needed to back off or the other guy would wonder why she is with you so much.</span></p> <span style="color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>We can only guess what her intentions were and are throughout all of this, but only she really can divulge the truth.  Whatever the case, your heart is hurting and that is not a fun place to be with your emotions.  In this case, you not only lost someone you were interested in dating, but you also lost a friend.  Know that self-harm will solve nothing.  It can cause medical complications, isolate you from friends and family, and become an addiction. Writing here instead was an awesome choice.</span><br></p> <span style="color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Maybe you could consider writing her a letter, but in doing that you cannot control what her response would be.  Things could change for the better, things could remain the same, or there is a chance they would worsen too.  Whatever you do, be sure you are still hanging out with friends who care about you and whom you have fun with.  Keep your routine the best that you can, and if you dont ask another date to prom, go with a group of friends, because you can still make it a fun time and make new memories too.</span><br></p> <span style="color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>If you need to talk again, we are here for you.</span><br></p> <span style="color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><span style="font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"> </span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(63, 63, 63);"><span>Laura, Crisis Counselor</span></span><br></p> <span style="font-size:16px;"> </span></div></div> </div>16

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