I Miss HerRelationshipsI Miss Her<div class="ExternalClass5E24C0FA82B04767BF98AB49CEBC9917"><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Hi, My best friend recently has been getting into drugs and alcohol and going off the rails (giving herself piercings, sneaking out...) and every time I see her she brings it up and offers to me. She either offers smoking or drinking. I've told her, no I'm not doing any drugs and yet she still asks. I've told her I don't support it. I don't feel comfortable hanging out with her anymore because I feel like a bore or that I'm lame. We haven't talked in a little while and I miss her. But I don't miss the new her. Do you have any advice? ​</span><br></div><div class="ExternalClass15AF3963087F4970BF3E1957B5EA66FB"><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">We are glad you have discovered our website and are reaching out tonight.  We can appreciate the sense confusion and disappointment you conveyed concerning your friend and her recent use of alcohol and drugs.   Her behavior has changed, which means your relationship has changed.  The confusion can come because you still care for the old friend, yet do not want to be involved in the activity of drugs and alcohol.  This is one of those times when you have to make a decision about who you are and want to be based on y<em style="">our</em> values, what you feel is important.  You feel uncomfortable with her behavior, it is a violation of your values, and it is important that you take a stand for that.  Yes, it can be hard, yet it is important.  It is her choice to use drugs and alcohol.  It is just as much your choice not to do so, and if that means your relationship changes, that is ok.  </span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">We want you to know we are here for you.  Please reach out and talk to a counselor anytime.</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Sincerely,</span></p><p><span class="ms-rteFontFace-1 ms-rteFontSize-3 ms-rteThemeForeColor-2-4" style="">Larry – Counselor</span></p></div>13

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