| My Parents Want Us To Break Up | Relationships | My Parents Want Us To Break Up | <div class="ExternalClass3EB4F0D2381D4D619EA639F7B6C5304C"><p style="font-family:georgia;font-size:16px;"><span>Hello! How are you today? I hope you're doing
well. I have a problem I really need help with. I have this boy who I really
like. He has a troubled past, though. Plus, I am only 14 years of age. We have
been "kid dating" which means it remains in school. My parents found
out that we had our first kiss about a week ago at our school dance. I am so
upset because they want me to break up with him for all those reasons. It's so
difficult, and I just cannot do it. He's upset, I am upset, and our friends are
upset. Our friends called us "Romeo and Juliet, forbidden love". It
feels that way. I have this unexplainable connection with him, and it's killing
me that my parents want this. I am so so so so sad, I cried all day yesterday
and today I cried some too. Now, he will walk the hallways and sometimes not
even come up to me. I would explain this to my dad, but I just can't. I know it
wouldn't work. My mom would agree with my dad, and my dad would just tell me
something, and I better listen. They are great great parents, but this is
killing me. My heart is broken. Please help when you can! Asap! Thank you! God
bless. </span></p>
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providing us with more information. I know this is difficult for you and
likely for this boy too, but you have got to listen to your parents and stay
away from a relationship with him like you have had. If you want your
parents to trust you and keep a good relationship with them, then you must.</span></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(89, 89, 89);"><span>If your friends
are making comments and siding with your feelings, be STRONG and set them
straight. Let them know that you are NOT going to defy your parents
or sneak around or disobey their restrictions. You have too much to lose
so please stop discussing the issue and please don't make mention of tragic
things like Romeo and Juliet.</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(89, 89, 89);"><span>That doesn't
mean on the other hand that you can't pray for this guy, that you can't try to
think of ways he could get the help he needs to over-come his troubled past and
become happy, have friends and stay involved with school. If you have
been "kid dating" perhaps you know what he is good at, what his
interests are, his God given talents and what group of positive people he
could get involved with. If you do, then talk to a teacher or a coach
about his strengths and talents and let them know that perhaps he would be
reluctant to approach them or join their group, but maybe they could approach him.</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(89, 89, 89);"><span>Keep busy, stay
involved with your family. They are your main support system and will do
anything to keep you safe both physically and emotionally. Make that easy
for them and it will in turn become easier for you. Promise!</span><br></p>
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</span><p style="font-family:tahoma;font-size:16px;color:rgb(89, 89, 89);"><span>Sincerely,</span><br></p>
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