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My Friends Are Exhausting

<div class="ExternalClass4F52DCBAACD947AFA8C98EB5370F9F07">I just don't understand. I'm literally so lonely and I feel so sad all the time. I just don't understand why I have literally no one who cares about me or no one who even really likes me, in a boyfriend way, when I'm literally one of the nicest people. I don't mean to sound self-absorbed or anything because I truly never feel good about myself at all or think I'm any good ever. But it came to my attention when I was hanging out with my best friend and she kept asking over and over again when I could take her to Walmart, when would work best for her. I literally give an give and give and receive like nothing back. I'm the driver- I take my friends to the animal shelter when they miss animals since their pet died a few months ago, I pay for their food, I drive them to Walmart. We make plans to do something and I wait around patiently, a half hour-2 hours AFTER we were supposed to do something, because they haven't gotten off the phone with their bf, I'm the DD for when they want to go out to parties and get drunk, I'm the one who makes sure they don't do completely stupid things, I'm the one who's always there when they're having troubles- with school, boys, family, or other friends. I'm literally always there for them and I get nothing in return. I can't even get enough time to talk about myself before they make the conversation about them. I love my friends but it's exhausting knowing that I'm super self-less and put everyone first and no one seems to notice, no one pays me for gas, no one gives me a thank you. I've tried to express my feelings but they get all mad at me because I'm not doing the right thing or because I'm too quiet. </div>

<div class="ExternalClass0A8525045F0C41D18E5BA396F844B2DF"><div>Thank you for reaching out to us, it isn’t easy to express your feelings and we are glad you did. Feeling lonely really is a part of the human experience that most people share at some time. It can be hard to overcome, as we truly have to look around us and find out why it is we are feeling this way. It is a great first step that you are able to admit you are feeling this way and properly identifying that. Writing in a journal can be one way to discover these feelings and lead us to learn a number of other things that might be connected to our feelings. Getting involved in clubs or other activities can be a helpful way to combat these feelings and help with introducing you to new friends and people to surround yourself with. Knowing who we are and doing things we enjoy can make us feel happy and confident. Surround yourself around people who care. Learn to say NO if there is something that you do not want to do. Your friends might be shocked at first as you have not said this in the past, however, a true friend will respect your no answer and support you in this. We have a great article that we would like you to look at: <a href="/Pages/tip-needy-friends.aspx">http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-needy-friends.aspx</a> We are here to offer you support 24 hour a day, 7 days a week. Stay Strong! LO, Couselor </div> </div>

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