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So Hurt Over A Guy

<div class="ExternalClass864231A522A14F74957CFC6FF9B3F8AE">Dear whoever this is, I know it's stupid of me to get so hurt over a guy, but to be honest, I truly am. I just feel like every time I start liking a guy, the guy always ends up hurting me or they're only after one thing or they end up not feeling the same way. Well I like this guy, he's a sophomore and I'm a freshman we've been sort of talking I guess and at the homecoming game Friday he was talking to me and flirting with me a little and today he hasn't said anything to me and left me on read multiple times and it seems like he's just not into me anymore. He posted something on Snapchat and it seemed like he was saying he was in a relationship but I just feel like I can never win with guys or with anything in that matter and I just feel stupid for being upset over a guy because I know so many other people have worse problems I just need some advice on to handle a situation like this because I'm not good with this type of stuff. </div>

<div class="ExternalClassA145D8EC33264B40A43C59BEB117CFEB"> First of all, it is okay to feel hurt or confused. Those are normal feelings and you are reacting to a situation that upsets you. Totally normal! Don't beat yourself up over that. Secondly, this is how a person learns about dating and what we want in a relationship. Being 14 you are just putting yourself out there and trying to meet other people that you are interested in. What attracts you to these boys? Is it their looks? Or is it the way they interact with others? Whatever the case, you are seeing potential opportunities to date and sometimes they are meant for you and sometimes they are not. This is what dating is all about. You're not expected to be good at this yet, you are only 14. So our advice is to just have fun and start your relationships out slow and just get to know the people around you. Don't jump in thinking you want to date them off the bat, take it slow and just get to know them. You may find that you are not interested or that you are more compatible than you thought. As for this current situation, take it easy. If he posted something that you think looks like he is in a relationship, then just be friends. Maybe he was flirting with you but that could just be his personality. Get to know him if you can. Don't be obsessive or overbearing, just friendly. You may find out that he is not your type. In the process you will learn more about yourself and what you are looking for in a relationship. We are here for you anytime. Continue to reach out when you need to talk. Take care, Naina, counselor </div>

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