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Bullying

Nothing Has Changed

<div class="ExternalClass068732B2CD9048E985F90D027BD95709">I have seen a counselor and have talked to my school about the bullying that is happening to me and they have confronted them but nothing has changed. I am being called names and being bullied 24/7. This has gotten so bad that I have wanted to cut and I have tried to cut. I can't tell my mom or dad because I don't want them to be disappointed in me. </div>

<div class="ExternalClassB70FF3FB94DD4AC38B48707BFD21F31B"> Thank you for reaching out for help when you are battling a bullying a situation. Being the target of bullying is never comfortable or easy, so you did an amazing thing by reaching out to us for some extra support in the situation; you must be an incredibly smart and brave young lady for making this step. Seeing your counselor and talking with the school about the bullying was a huge and great first step to make! Using those avenues and getting support from those people is one of the best ways to start addressing this bully. It is extremely unfortunate that these particular options didn't work right away. You were incredibly resourceful, though, to reach out to us as another option for getting through such a complicated situation; here are a few options we think might be helpful:<ol><li> Try talking to your school and the counselor again about what is going on. If you don't tell them that things haven't gotten better, they might think this isn't a problem anymore when it is in fact still an issue. Let them know how things have gotten worse and ask if there is anything else that they can do to help again with this situation.</li><li> Consider talking to your parents about the situation. We understand that talking to your parents about bullying can be uncomfortable and hard, but sometimes that is the conversation you need to have. If you start the conversation by telling your parents everything that you have already tried in addressing the situation (e.g., talking to the counselor, school, and us, they will see how you tried to problem solve the situation yourself and are just asking for a little bit more help; they could be very proud of you for opening up to them. Also, sometimes parents are better able to talk with schools about what is going on and help the situation get a little bit better.</li><li> Tell an adult about your cutting. Someone needs to know that things have gotten to the point that you have turned to self-injury. You could tell your parents, your counselor, a favorite teacher at school, or even an aunt or uncle you feel comfortable with. Let someone know so they can help you utilize other skills and just help keep you safe from cutting in the future. You can also reach out to us for extra support at (800) 448-3000 any time of the day or night so we can talk to you about options other than cutting.</li></ol> In addition to the things listed above, we have some great resources on our website that might be helpful for your situation. Here are a few links that seem to be relevant for you: <ul><li> Bullying: <a href="/Pages/tip-bullying.aspx"> http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-bullying.aspx</a></li><li> Being Resilient: <a href="/Pages/tip-being-resilient.aspx"> http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-being-resilient.aspx</a></li><li> Self-Injury: <a href="/Pages/tip-self-injury.aspx"> http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-self-injury.aspx</a></li><li> Writing a Letter to Your Parents: <a href="/Pages/tip-letter-to-your-parents.aspx"> http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-letter-to-your-parents.aspx</a></li><li> 99 Coping Skills: <a href="/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx"> http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx</a> </li></ul> Of course, these are only a few of the tips from our website that we think might be helpful for you. If you would like, please see the rest of our tips at this link: <a href="/Pages/Tips.aspx"> http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/v2/Pages/Tips.aspx</a>. Bullying is a complicated and discouraging thing to go through, but you don't have to do it alone. Please reach out to us whenever you are needing support so we can try to help you in the ways that you are needing. Continue being the brave and strong young lady that you have already proved you are! PC – Counselor </div>

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